my father is 40 and my mom s 43...i saw my father more thn 3 times with tht girl..shes so young looks 25..im sure shes hes gf..should i talk about it with my dad?or tell it to my mom?ah besides im 20..
2006-11-13 05:49:34 · 19 answers · asked by last spiritual man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would stay out of it, but that's just me.
2006-11-13 05:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by arbolito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad about it before you jump to far into conclusions and tell your mom. You're old enough to have a honest relationship conversation with your dad. Ask him about it, and tell him what you're thinking. But don't be judgmental and DON"T pre-accuse him of anything. Ask before you leap. If you come off as attacking it will put him on the defense and you won't get any real answers out of him.
The only other thing you could really do, is just let it be and see what happens. But if you're really that concerned about it have the talk. But again, be careful on how you approach it.
2006-11-13 06:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by jacklynnbryant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should gather the evidence and tell your mom. If you are afraid to hurt her feelings, confide what you know with her mother, or her girlfriend, sister - whoever she is close to, and ask for their advice on how to break the news to her. I don't think you need to protect your father from anything. He's a grown man, acting like an idiot. Your mother will feel twice betrayed, if she learns that not only her husband is cheating on her, but that you knew, and didn't say anything. Who knows, she may already suspect it, or possibly even know. I think it's important that you let your mom know, that you are telling her because you love her and respect her, and do not want her dignity to be damaged by the acts of her midlife crisis playboy spouse.
2006-11-13 05:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their business and you don't want to be a part of it when everything goes down. I'm wondering if your father is still married to your mother while doing this??? If so then i'm sorry to say that he will be caught sooner or later. If your mother and father are not together then it doesn't matter who he's with and how old she is, just as long as she's legal.
2006-11-13 06:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father and see what he says... other than that stay out of it... if you really want to do something talk with your father more and tell him exactly how you feel and that if he doesnt do something about it than you will tell your mom... either way your stuck in the middle trust me i have been there and done that... you cant win no matter what you do... sorry
2006-11-13 05:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do not assume that your mother doesn't know. She might know full well, deep down, and is perfectly content to continue ignoring the situation. If this is the case, though, her world will come falling apart should you mention it to her, because then she has to face it.
I would discuss this with your father. Let him know that you know. If your mother does truly know, then your father will probably bring this up. Give him a chance to tell her first. It should come from him, not you.
2006-11-13 06:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they're still married, then your mom I think has a right to know. If not, then if it makes you feel better talk to your dad on how you feel about the fact that she's so young and your not ready to accept her in your life in any way. If that is the way you feel
2006-11-13 05:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom knows, but she's just not telling you about , Trust me women have their way of knowing and your mother has been withyour father long enough to know whats going on. So if she doesn't say any thing then you don't say anything.
2006-11-13 06:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
In my opinion you should tell your mom about your dad because your dad may get mad at you but he WILL get over it. If you know about this and dont tell your mom it may end up in a bad result.
2006-11-13 06:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dancer315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were me I would tell my father I know and if he didn't stop I would tell my mother. You don't know if he got some disease from this girl and could give it to your mom and she wouldn't even know!
2006-11-13 05:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to your dad then ,,, see what he has to say,,, maybe he is helping her some sort of way ,,, Im not saying that your dada is an innocent little angel but talk to him you never know,,, then tell him does your mom know? dont tell your mom first because you never know...
2006-11-13 05:53:46 · answer #11 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋