It's kind of hard to look at my father now days, first off I am 17 he is 46. He recently wanted me to do something to his computer while he was at work. I went to the "Documents" on start to look for the file he requested and bumped into a picture called "Girls" anyway (I know I shouldn't of looked not my computer) but it was a nude girl who was about 8 or 9 maybe. This really shocked me, I continued to see if he downloaded other images like that maybe on accident (meaning he accidently downloaded a 8 year old girl picture instead of older women) He had various pictures of women though but also of children....... which kind of sickens me. I am not sure what am I to think =/. I am thinking of just ignoring it and moving out next year when I am out of high school because this is kind of creepy. Any ideas? Also unless this starts to become a real problem (IE he tries to get with a underage girl) then I am not contacting the police.
2006-11-13 05:49:01 · 15 answers · asked by T boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I would go to my mom.... but they divorced like 12 years ago. I live with my dad only and my mom is in a different state and she hates my dad with a fiery passion. Also I can't stand to talk to my mom let alone live with her (it's a long story we never got along) It sucks really bad and half the people who are telling me to turn him in don't know him, besides that hes a really nice dad and I just can't find a reason why he is doing this :(. Also I am SCREWED if he gets arrested my brother who is out of high school will be forced to move out and live on his own with only 700 dollars. I will have to go to my moms by law and I think it will cause me to suicide if I had to go back there. This will just be complete chaos. I am willing to turn him in if I find him really pursuing this fantasy of his but you guys got to understand the position I am in :/. If I was 18 I would look at this a different way but it would be hard for me to turn him in since I get along with him very well.
2006-11-13 06:01:56 · update #1
When I mean half of the people I mean on this topic, nobody outside this topic on the internet. Unless some FBI agent tracks my IP down then I think no one is going to know.
2006-11-13 06:22:53 · update #2
This subject is harder than just "telling the police" I am kind of scared of what will happen. I mean like.... how my friends will react and think in front of me. Most of my friends have sisters and for christ sakes if they heard my dad is a pedophile then I doubt I will ever be able to go to their houses again. Also the shame of my family seeing me is almost enough to not even want to talk to them again. I guess this will be said to me once again (Life isn't fair) because I just wish that I would of never of found those pictures now. It's hard to be the responsible person when you are a kid because I have no power on anything or any plan B that I will live somewhere else. I don't think he will want my help if I try to confront him I think he will start going crazy and instantly delete all the pictures from his computer. Then from now and then theres 10 months of hell before I turn 18.
2006-11-13 06:31:22 · update #3
I'm sorry that you are going through this difficult ordeal and have no one to direct you as to what to do. I guess you've already spoken to several people on the subject (half of the people ....) so it may be easier for you to tell someone who can help you with this. Do you have a priest or a preacher you can talk to? And if not, how about a doctor or your dad's lawyer? These professionals can help you decide what would be best for all parties involved (your dad, the girls in the photos, your dilema of where you would have to live, etc.). Please contact someone that can REALLY help you and don't waste anymore time wondering what to do. Your own health, mental, physical and emotional are depending on YOU. Think of yourself first as it seems that no one else is.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-13 06:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cyndi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, wow. This is really strange, and it must be terrible for you find out. The weird thing is, why did he ask you to look on his computer when he knew there would be a good chance you would stumble upon his illegal, disturbing porn? You would think that if he knew that stuff was on him computer and didn't want anyone to know, he would have hidden it better and NEVER asked you to go looking for something for him. I don't have any good advice, especially because I understand you not wanting to turn him in or anything like that, but how would you know if he DOES try to get in contact with a child? Do you think he maybe wanted you to find the pictures, as a weird cry for help? I'm sorry you have to go through this.
2006-11-13 05:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by hollym101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is easy and hard at the same time! If someone just accidentally downloaded something like that they would have deleted it right away, but he didn't. and there was others. You don't know he hasn't acted on any of these things like trying to meet up with a child on the net. BUT having those pics means there other other sick people out there getting more for men like that to look at and there are innocent children and sometimes babies even who are the subject of those photos who are being hurt to give these men something to look at. I think you need to tell someone about it soon! Maybe your mom and then decide about the police. I would try to get back on that computer and get more evidence and save it to a disk. I am sorry you have to deal with this but I think he may have wanted to get caught if it was that easy to find and he sent you to it knowing it was that easy!!!!
2006-11-13 06:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him on it. He may not realize he has a problem, and if you bring it out in the open (so to speak, just btwn the two of you), he'll have to face his problem. You need to let him realize that what he's doing is wrong (underage girls!?!), unacceptable, and he needs help before this escalates into a problem (he does try to get with an underage girl, which chances are, if he did, you wouldn't know about anyways). It's not about whether you think he's a good guy or a bad guy - he has a problem, and you love him and want to help him deal with that. You may need to move out sooner than later - things may get rough. But most times, the right thing to do isn't the easiest. Good luck!!!
2006-11-13 05:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by jello 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dads do not do this. I imply you would use the 'inebriated' factor as an excuse however he fairly should not be doing that - it is incest. EDIT - You say you simplest see him a two times a 12 months, so inform the character you are residing with approximately it. A father is meant to make you suppose adored and included, now not uncomfortable and involved. He would use being inebriated as HIS excuse however he will have to realize whilst he is stepping over the road.
2016-09-01 11:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by petroni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you had to find those pictures. That now places you in a very difficult situation. If your father is downloading images like this he may have already contacted young children. It is now your responsibility to notify either your mother or authorities. I'm sorry, but if another incident occurs in the future you don't want the knowledge that you could have prevented it.
2006-11-13 05:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sure wait until his urge gets the best of him and "gets with an underage girl" thats right protect the pervert. You need to be looking out for younger girls who cannot take care of themselves. Turn the sicko in. Think about this one. One day you may have children. How comfortable are you going to be letting him around your children. Tell someone NOW, before this gets to him and you have to see him in jail.
2006-11-13 05:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you not contacting the police is very irresponsible of you. He might have already took advantage of some young girl. Also those little girls in those pictures did not want to pose like that. Those girls might are being held against their will. If you don't tell the cops tell someone.
2006-11-13 06:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep question. You mentioned "half the people want you to turn him in". By telling all these people, you've already increased his chances of getting caught anyways. If you're going to gossip about it, you might as well turn him in.
Personally I couldn't do that to a relative. I would confront him first. That will probably scare him sh***less and make him stop.
2006-11-13 06:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have him arrested for it. I know you don't want to, but just think of it like this.... if he doesn't get treated for his "fantasy" now, who's to say that when YOU have a litttle girl (or your brother has a daughter), that he won't start to act out on his fantasy? Is there a grand parent or aunt and uncle you can stay with? If you're close to a relative, it might be easier just to talk to them about it and see if they can talk to him or at least remove you from the home.
2006-11-13 06:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋