I was just curious to see how many people had a big wedding vs. running off. I myself ran off 2 months after my 18 birthday and got married. We were planning a wedding but my honey came home on leave and we couldn't wait. None of our family or friends were there. What was your wedding like?
2006-11-13 05:41:53 · 25 answers · asked by ♥just me♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks for all of the responses.......I forgot to say that we have been married now for 8 years and three beautiful kids. In a way I wanted a big wedding but, I also like the fact that it was just the two of us. Kind of mixed feelings. Maybe we will do a little something for our 10 year to celebrate with the whole family. Who knows.
2006-11-13 06:14:48 · update #1
my husband is an army officer...we got a registry marriage in a German courthouse....then we had BK for lunch....he was then deployed to Iraqfor 15 months.....we have been married 3years now...sometimes I think about it and lol...because how many people do you know who had BK for their lunch after the wedding?? If I had to do it again....I'd definitely have a big wedding...
2006-11-13 05:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Got married at the court house, small (microscopic?) family gathering at my parents home. I had a pretty cake, a modest dress, bouquet and boutoniers made at home, drinks, and dinner catered by mom and sister. No honey moon. It sucked real bad but it was a sweet, intimate affair. I paid for everything since my parents had trown a big lavish wedding for my sister and they said that they were not going to pay for another big wedding. I was upset about it, but oh well.
We divorced 7 years later, so I would say that I only threw away 600 dollars. So I guess is was money well spent for what is was worth.
When I get re-married I definetly go for a bigger, fancier party, the one that I always dreamed about and the one that I and my fiance deserve. I want to have my friends and my bf family. Forget about my family .. cheap people. I'm planning on not having more than 50 people altogether, I just want the people that I truly care about on my special day and throw a heck of a party .
Good luck and congratulations
PS/ My best friend had a very small wedding when she got married, she was very pregnant , so they didn;t do anything fancy, They were just starting and didn't have a lot of money either. For thir 10 year aniversary last month, and now that they can afford it, they went to a second honeymoon in Italy for a month.... talking about making up for a crappy wedding!
2006-11-13 06:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had a big wedding because that is what her mother wanted. The in-laws paid for the whole thing. Looking back I regret not having a small wedding where I could have enjoyed it instead of the headaches with the photographer and the florist and the music. I don't remember any of it being fun, more of an event we had to plan and over see. If I could do it again or if anyone wants my advice, do it quickly, a party at your house, catered or pot luck. and just buy disposable cameras for everyone to use for you and save your money for your new family. Kids college come up very quickly. P.S. I'm still married to the same woman for 22 years and wouldn't change her for anyone.
2006-11-13 06:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by tman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just got married three weeks ago....and I would say it was a smaller wedding as far as guests attending but it was a more traditional church wedding.
I decided to do my wedding this way because I wanted it to be a big event, and have all of our family and friends celebrate our commitement. If I had to do it all over again, I would still have my wedding in the same church and reception hall, with the same people invited.
My sister is getting married in February, and she has chosen to "elope". She's going to get married in a church, but instead have it just be the two of them, with alter servers as the witnesses, and then going out to a very nice place for dinner before leaving on their honeymoon that evening. She decided to have her wedding this way because she feels that a marriage is something private and personal, that she wants to share with just her husband.
2006-11-13 05:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I wanted to have a small church wedding, but my father wanted us to have a big wedding and he was paying. I believe there were 500 invitations sent out...about 300 people came. It was nuts. We had a large wedding party, I think a total of fourteen attendants (this was nearly 30 years ago, bear with me, please LOL). About half of the guests were my father's business associates. To this day it is known as "Papa's wedding." The wedding itself was lovely and I don't regret that. However, I have total sympathy for anyone who would rather just get married than have the insanity that seems to come with large weddings. By the same token, I have been to some pretty large affairs that have been great. Then again, I was a guest. ; )
Nearly 50 years ago my parents had a very small wedding. My mother always longed for a big wedding party. So, for their 25th anniversary they had renewal of vows ceremony and, at long-last, that big party. Now, this was fun, even being a participant. My mother wore her sister's gown and, as most of us were married, we all wore our bridesmaids gowns from each other's weddings and acted as my parent's attendants. My parent's had a larger wedding party than I did!
But I realized the amount of in-put my mother had in my own wedding when she said to me, "Just think how beautiful it will be to do this for YOUR 25th anniversary..." It was an epiphany moment for both of us because my reply was, "You do that. Scott and I will be in Jamaica. One wedding like mine was enough for me." I almost felt bad for her until I saw her look at my younger cousin (a girl), my daughter, and my niece, I could almost hear Momma thinking, but there are plenty of other chances!
When it came time for my cousin and daughter to marry, both chose to elope. They saw the same maniacal gleam in Momma's eye. The woman is a wedding party animal! LOL
Oh yah...I was also eighteen when I got married to a guy in the military and,we are still together nearly 30 years later. ; )
The wedding doesn't make the marriage, you do.
Best wishes!
2006-11-13 06:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a small wedding, just family, maybe 30 people in all. We had a open house reception two weeks later. i didn't have alot of money, and I didn't want to ask my parents for much either. I think it was $3000 total, including my dress. But its the marriage, not the wedding that matters. Congrats!!
2006-11-13 05:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in January and its not such a big wedding, but we are inviting a 100 people. My mom liked the fact that I am planning on a church wedding and my fiance wanted to be married in church.
I like the idea of being surrounded by friends and family we take the biggest step our lives. It nice to have all those people theere to offer their support and love.
2006-11-13 06:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We got married in Jamaica. No family or friends. It was great because if we had a big wedding, we wouldn't have been able to afford a honeymoon. This way we got a honeymoon and had a reception for everyone when we got back. I would recommend it to anyone. Far less stress once we made that decision than when we were trying to plan a big one.
2006-11-13 05:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Our wedding had a 150 guests and each of the 150 is still talking about it 1 1/2 years later. It was the greatest party ever thrown. It was stress free, light hearted, big and fun.
My wedding went down in history.
2006-11-13 05:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We had a traditional family wedding of just under 200. Nothing big and fancy, just a traditional Ukrainian wedding.
Nothing wrong with having eloped - better to be married! I would have missed celebrating with my family and friends, though. Because of your circumstances, though, that's your good memories!
2006-11-13 23:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a really big wedding, lots of guests, gifts the whole thing. I wish now i would not have wasted all of that money. Just be glad you are married and concentrate on making it a good one. Do not regret the past
2006-11-13 05:44:30 · answer #11 · answered by Patti T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋