how do i get him to notice me?

Question

i am working as a waitress in a diner, there's this regular guy who comes in for his lunch,and i got the hots for him. i am worried of asking him his name or phone number in case i lose my job if my boss finds out.i hve tried other means like being extra nice to him when i serve him in the hope he notices me.. but to no avail.pls help im getting desperate as i am haveing thought about spilling coffee on him on purpose to get him to notice me, i know i will most probably lose my job but i worried i might lose him to another women. pls help in wot i sohuld do, im not very confident in myself.

Answer 1

undo a couple of buttons on your top and lean close in front of him

Answer 2

Hand him a pc of paper with either your phone number or email address then if he is interested he will hand you his email address or phone # tearing the pc of paper in half so he can keep your information and he can give you his information, but try to say something before handing him a pc of paper. I would say just to ask if he wishes to do something sometime in a public place so you both drive separately so if things do not go well you could call it off before it gets to far. If he is very shy like I am well it could be that he was let down pretty hard by a couple of women. If he is very shy just stick to small talk and if he starts opening up then you will know that he may have an interest in you. To me I will usually talk to women just fine that I have no interest in but when someone comes along that I really like I usually bind up. So if he is this way just give things time to change. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

He probably doesn't notice because he thinks that being nice to him is part of your job responsibility. Really, though, your situation is ideal as far as getting to know him. You can check on him as many times as you want, and you're not stalking him; you're just doing your job. You can start short conversations, then disappear to take care of another customer, leaving him wishing for more time to talk to you. Plus, it is not unusual for the wait staff to know the names of regular customers and have casual conversations with them, so it wouldn't be wrong for you to ask for his name. As long as you are discreet in your interactions and don't spend too much time at his table, you won't be fired. Just smile a lot, ask how he's doing, and capitalize on the automatic cuteness factor available to waitresses. Making the effort to reach out to him and behave in a friendly manner will ease the nervousness you feel inside, no matter how receptive he may or may not be. Fake it til you make it. Tell yourself that you are a kind, friendly person, and who wouldn't want to talk to you? A little counseling might not hurt either, as a reccomendation from someone who also struggles with confidence issues. As for the guy, just give it a try, as any conversation will help you practice your social skills and help you feel more at ease with people. If things don't work out with him, there's always the next customer. ;)

P.S. Reba McEntire actually sings a song about a waitress and customer who get together. It might not hurt to find the lyrics and read them for tips.

Answer 4

Look WMD everyone has a hot point that you can strike up a conversation with. Most guys either like sports, NASCAR or say even hunting. Listen to him very closely and when you pick up a subject you can sorta make a comment like "I like this racecar driver, and football of course mention that you like the NFL and your favorite team say could be the Dallas Cowboys. Everyone has a hot point that you can start a conversation with. How do you think a lot of guys start conversations with ladies. Really once you start a conversation then you can follow up on that subject or talk about another subject that is of interest to both of you.

Answer 5

The first thing is to make sure he is single, could be married but does not wear his ring. Try starting some small talk, you may get info on what he does for living or he might bring up his family. once you have declared him available, try putting a note on receipt. like: Hi my name is---------yours, and put what is yours? the bag is now open.

Answer 6

you should try and make small talk with him..like hi good to see you again ..break the ice if you can,then try and make little flirty comments..like do u fancy having a coffee with me sometime..and if that doesnt work..then mayb unfortunately not meant to be..if you dont catch him lookin at you,or bit shy around you...just play it cool..its not a crime to ask someone out and to fancy someone that visits your place of work

Answer 7

Just talk to him. I'm single and not bad looking and as a rule I never hit on a woman who is working because she will have to be nice to me back so I won't know if she likes me or if she's being polite. So just start talking to him about some movie that just came out and how you want to see it and how you have no one to go with and then, HERE"S THE IMPORTANT PART...

ASK HIM TO GO WITH YOU.

You won't lose your job for asking because I really doubt that he will go complain to the manager about it.

You want to go with me?

I wish you could go with me...

You should go with me...

Do you want to see that movie? Hey, we could go see it together!

etc.

Just ask, just ask, just ask.

Answer 8

yeah pour boiling coffee over him- then throw some cakes at him too, he'll really like u then lol. na, i wouldnt reccommend the coffee thing- just ask him u sissy- bite the bullet-if u dont try ul never know......

Answer 9

my sweet friend,,when he comes for his lunch the next time give him an extra thing with his lunch telling him its from you with a sweet smile,,not sexy smile,,,be careful,, and he will thank you and ask for your name,, give him your name and phone,,and dont forget to tell me what will happen,,God bless you

Answer 10

Be nice to him look pretty and than try to be your self besides all of that......