Well..according to most of the ppl gals can't go out with boys...my mom dosen't allow my sis to go out wid boys bcoz now a days this isn't a safe area..but my sis dosen't like this...she has got her point of view i.e we must be friendly wid every1 and we must notfollow those orthodoxed ideas...but when i listen to my mom she says that it's not a safe area, u can't take a risk like that...well this must b the story of most of the houses..wat i wanna ask is that whose right my mom or my sis and why??????
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2006-11-13 05:25:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dear Anuja!!
your mom and sister are right from their point of view.
1. you mom says the right thing becoz she is much careful about you and your sister. becoz there are friends who acts as good and when they get the chance they make use of it. there are so many examples. there are so many girls who were spoiled by their firends. so you mom think if she gives her much freedom she may misuse or your friends may mis lead her. becoz now a days everyone is follwoing western style. so sometimes friendship lead to sex and all. so you mom worry about it.
2. you sisters says you should not be orthodox. its true. this is modern world. but she should keep some values. she can talk to boys and can be frendly with them. but it is necessary to keep some distance between them. she shuld never think that they my friend, so they wil not do such things. I hav seen so many guys whom act as a good frends of the girls and in their absence they talk about bad things about that girls with his friends.
ask her to maitain frendship with boys, tats necessary, but avoid going with guys in late nite and all.
i am not against lvoe and all , if she finds a rite guy , she can stick to him, and let her know parents about it.
i hope i cud give you some idea
take care
hav a good
lin_dcr@yahoo.com
2006-11-14 17:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by dracu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
The question is very simple, common, and eternal.
I think your mother is more right than yours sister. You can feel that if for a week your parents are out of home and you have the responsibility of your sister. And then you think how much freedom, you will be able to give your sister. Forget about going out of home, think within that week there is a rainy day and your sister wants to enjoy the rain by taking a bath, do you thing you can give her the permission. I think she known better that what is her responsibility.
But from your sisters point of view I can’t say she is wrong. Why should she stop herself? In life this time periods is the most beautiful because we have our parents who have all the responsibility of us. So forget the question. Let free your sister to do what she wants and your mother too with her responsibility. The war must go on. And thinking for a solution is most foolish thing of the world
2006-11-14 12:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by friend_raj_2005_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....I have to agree with the last response that it would be much easier to answer your question if we could READ it, but if you are asking should you(or your sister) be able to date even though your mother feels it is not safe, then I have an answer. Well, I guess it depends on how old you are, but if your mother feels you are responsible enough to date and her only hold back is that it is not safe, then Yes. You take chances in everything you do. It may not be safe to walk out the front door, but we do it...If you(or your sister) are responsible enough to know when a situation is bad or mature enough to make rational personal decisions, then Momma just needs to let her babies out of the nest. It sounds to me like Mom isn't ready to let her girls grow up. Is dating always "safe".....no....but you should be trusted to make responsible and mature decisions regarding the people you want to date. That being said...if you are 12, then my answer would be that your Mother knows best and you are simply not old enough to make wise decisions regarding relationships and your mom is just looking out for you. Suggest inviting your boyfriend over to your house where Mom can get to know him a bit before she lets you out of her sight. I know....not the coolest or most romantic date LOL but if Mom feels more comfortable with the boy, she may let you go.
2006-11-13 13:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by ldlivengood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree to your mum because you will not understand why she's being strict with u n ur sis unless ur in her shoes...meaning when ur married and have a kid.The world is a very unsafe place especially in india.As u r aware even married ladies are not safe in many areas.You can be friendly with everyone, that does not mean you have to go out with them.You can speak and be friendly in school or college.Being worried about your safety is not being orthodoxed or narrow minded or any such thing.even the wild animals want to protect their young ones of danger, but ofcourse we are the most highly sophisticated of animals with a extra sense!So don;t blame your parents for caring for you.Appreciate them!
2006-11-14 11:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by plv228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too long ago my daughter asked me if it would be ok for her to go with a friend to see a band play in an area of the city that we live in which is noted for gang related drive by shootings. I said an absolute NO to her. I explained why I said no, which was why put yourself at risk when there are many other places that are safe to go to. She was dosappointed but she understood my care and concern for her. Later she thanked me for being a loving and caring parent. (her friends mom didnt seem to mind where her daughter would be going)
2006-11-13 13:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say your mom. because she only wants whats best for your sister and you, and she may think harm could come to you. but i think your mom might want to have a think and maybe start trusting you in your area, like maybe take a mobile fone with you incase of an accident, or make sure you tell her the exact time you will be home and where you will be, so if your not home on time she can come looking for you. just incase of an accident.
2006-11-13 13:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_sweet_16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is meant for living, how can you experience anything (good or bad) if you don't do anything at all? I can understand both points, but, personally, I think your sis is right. As long as you are careful and smart about things, you will be fine.
2006-11-13 13:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both of them is right ur sis and ur mom bcoz everyone in the world got different way of thinking. tell ur sister to go out with friends in the morning and return by the evening. and tell ur mom to have faith in her girls.
2006-11-14 08:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by stranger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is only trying to protect you.
i know all teenagers want to enjoy life and meet friends and have late nights etc.... but also you must listen to your parents advise - remember they were a teenagers once and they have gone through this
whatever they are saying is mainly for your good
trust me anuja, there are some really nasty people out there, who abduct / murder and abuse girls. your mom is probably protecting you from all that.
maybe you should talk to your mom and request her to allow you to meet your friends and promise that you will come back h ome before dark. try it !
2006-11-14 06:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well us moms know how teenage boys are, they all think about sex at that age. and if its in a bad neighborhood then we really don't want her to go there. we as parents need to protect or children no matter how old you get.we are older and wiser and you teens don't realize that until you have kids of your own.
2006-11-13 13:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋