do you want us ( men) to say and do things and not say and not do things that make you feel SAFE and SPECIAL and LOVED even if the underlying SINGULAR agenda for a man is ALWAYS to somehow get laid?
2006-11-13 05:13:09 · 21 answers · asked by zigzagidiot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmmm - charming lies or brutal truth?
I'd rather opt for a charming brute who knows when to keep the truth to himself.....
2006-11-13 05:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Tell me you want sex and I can make a smart, informed choice. You won't have as many bunny boilers on your tail if you do this. Belive it or not, there are women in the world who like sex just as much as men and would like the truth up front.
There are also a lot ofwomen who want to be romanced. Nothing wrong with that as long as everyone's intentions are clear from the word go.
Just my opinion...but I think sex is sexier when you both know what you're doing and why you're there...
2006-11-13 13:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Grá 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
real men aren't like that.. areal man would say and not say things, do and not do things, to make a woman feel loved, safe and special, but not to get some, but to truly show that his intent was to make her feel those three things and more... a real man respects a woman, and wouldn't play her like that... a real man would love a woman first and foremost because she was made in the image and likeness of God... and that has nothing to do with lust... and I am quite happy to say that I know men that are just like what I've described, and they are so much more than all the pretenders!
2006-11-13 13:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by lily 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why is sex such a big deal? maybe cause it feels good if its done right. but, there are lots of other things you can focus on that gives you a good feeling. spending time with friends, taking a women out on a date and not puting an expectation of sex. just enjoy the company and get to know her. sitting in a quiet moment and being grateful for your own life, hosting a family dinner. giving little gifts with out reason...ie: birthday christmas etc. i consider myself attractive. i get asked out etc. i go sometimes. but mainly i like to spend time with my family, people that matter most. i dont' want to waste my time and energy on trivial things. i was close to death once. i have friends that passed away. i just don't want to waste time. and sex is last on my list of things to waste my energy on. but i dont' agree with you that this is what is on a mans agenda all the time. i guess you tend to come across what you put out mostly. i've spent time with men who are down to earth, connected to thier spirituality, love thier family, real with who they are and take care of their own biz. getting laid is over rated, especially now adays. so much death can be attached to that one moment. maybe in your world its always your agenda, reach outside your circle and you will see more then just sex.
2006-11-13 13:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know that all men want is to get laid. Charming us will help that. Manipulating women is wrong and will get you no where. And will get you a bad rep.
2006-11-13 13:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously haven't had much interaction with women, or women with standards anyway. If you don't feel what you're saying just keep your mouth shut and find yourself a prostitute or a nice blowup doll. With that kind of attitude about women I feel terrible for whoever you end up with.
Still... women should expect this. It's no secret that men use women. You've just confirmed it.
2006-11-13 13:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course. We are not animals, we have a need to connect to people and feel loved. Unfortunately most of the time it is false feelings.
2006-11-13 13:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Pardon Moi? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont appreciate being charmed and manipulated by men (for s-e-x)
i can see through it. besides if i want s-e-x with a man i would just tell him straight so i expect the same back.
2006-11-13 13:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think , deep down inside, we're hoping someone actually cares about us, and that sex is your way of expressing your feelings for us.
But that is rarely the case.
2006-11-13 13:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by }pixie{ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know that the woman isn't similarly minded, and you're just providing the icing on the cake? say no more, say no more squire -- it's all part of the seduction!
2006-11-13 13:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋