My parents have been divorced since i was about 5 or 6(i am 14 now) i have lived with my mom and step dad since then. I love them and all, but i'm thinking about moving in with my dad and my step mom (they only live 2 min. away from where i live now). Really the only thing that is holding me back right now is hurting my mom and step-dad's feelings. I don't know what to do.
2006-11-13 04:34:20 · 14 answers · asked by tigert92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
please keep in mind that I visit my dad every other weekend
2006-11-13 04:44:30 · update #1
Explain to them the reasons behind your decision. Show them that you are mature enough by giving them logical reasons for the move and that it has nothing to do with you loving your dad and step-mom more. And as long as you promise to visit them often (weekends, holidays, birthdays, etc.), they should be okay with it.
2006-11-13 04:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by tipper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there a particular reason you want to move in with your Dad? Sometimes we think the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence only to find out its not once we get there. I would suggest that you talk to your Mom & then maybe try living with your Dad for a month or so to see how it goes. Hopefully you are really wanting to spend time with your Dad, not doing something to hurt your Mom or thinking maybe your Dad will give you more
$$$$ because if thats the case you might be in for a surprise.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 12:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Txfroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make a list of reasons why you're thinking of moving in with your Dad. Look at the pros and cons of moving their and do what you feel is the best decision for you. It may hurt your Mom and Step-Dad but if you have good reasons to back up your choice and are not doing it to spite them, and assure them you will still make time to spend with them and all that. It will be hard at first but things should improve. Good luck
2006-11-13 12:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by mk2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to why you want to move in with your dad. As he asked you to? Are you unhappy where you are? Since both your parents live just 2 minutes apart, is there any chance you could live at one home for, say, two weeks, and then the other two weeks? Or maybe spend the summer at your dad's and winter with your mom? I'm sorry you're going through this...
2006-11-13 12:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every child of divorced parents who still love them at one time or another wants to try living with the other one. It's natural. Just explain to your mom that you want to try it, because right now in your life you feel that you need more time with your dad. It's not that you don't love her, you just need more time. Any loving parent will understand. As long as your dad is responsible and can take care of you, I say go for it.
2006-11-13 12:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've given your mom a lot of your time and I think it's alright to want to give some to your dad. I lived with my mom until I was 14 too and then moved in with my dad until I was 18. Best call I ever made. People thought it was strange though, me being a girl and all. I thought it was great. My dad is a blast and I can never begin to explain how awesome that time meant to me.
2006-11-13 12:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Living only 2 mins away I would think that you could spend fairly equal time with both sets of parents no matter where you lived. I think if you'd like to live with your father for awhile too that would be nice since you've already lived with your mom for so long - would be nice and fair to both of them I suppose - but ultimately if they are allowing you this choice with the courts approval, I think that they would understand - especially since the two homes are so apparently close to one another in proximity. Sounds like you haven't talked to your mother about this yet though, and it would have to be approved by the courts even if your parents agreed, so it's not that easy to just do. Talk to your mom (and I hope you've already talked to your dad) and be sure to let your mother know how much you love and appreciate her, but that you have another parent too and would like to spend more time with him by living there for awhile. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-13 12:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you ask to stay a weekend first and take it from there, maybe suggest staying over weekends only and then gradually show your mom that you would like to stay there as much as you like to be with her. it would be hard for her to just move in right away without saying anything. I would say gradually move in, start by saying weekends or something, who knows you might not like living with your dad.
2006-11-13 12:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell your mom you wanna move in with your dad for a month and youll visit her throughout the month but if you really like living with your dad after that month is up then youll stay there as long as youd like.
2006-11-13 12:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by lostandconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to realize that they put you in a vulnerable situation, having to choose who you want to live with. but thats your decision to make. its hard trying to choose which parent to stay with. you been with your mom every since they got divorce and you know that your father had to suffer not being able to see your face every mourning like back then when your parents were together. Someone is going to get hurt one way or the other. but they have to consider your feelings. if you want to go stay with your father go right ahead. your mother will be hurt but she has to look at the hurt she caused your father when you went to stay with her. i think your father would be delighted to have you come stay wiht him. its your mothers turn to see how your father felt when she took you away from him.
2006-11-13 12:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by vanillaswril 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋