Do you consider spanking child abuse?

Question

I am working on a paper in school, and I was wondering if you consider spanking child abuse.

Why do you consider spanking child abuse??

Answer 1

This ones hard for me cause I was hit while growing up so I believe in spanking a child. I know it may not be right but when you were raised that way, as much as you say it wont happen, it will. I just can't see myself telling my kid he's grounded...that's too easy and to me they will not learn if all they get is grounded. Now if they got smacked, then they will learn. I am not saying beat your kid until he's bleeding and unconscience, that's just wrong. But if he curses...smack! If he talks back....smack! If he acts up in school...smack! You get the point. To answer your question, some people thinking simply putting your hands on a child is child abuse. In my opinion, I feel kids are as bad as they are now a days because parents are scared to discipline their kids. I have seen kids hit their parents in public, I have seen kids yell back at their mothers, cursing at them, completely disrespecting them. I ride the subway everyday and am appalled at the way some kids speak to their parents, its unbelievable. When I was growing up I couldn't go to someones house and say I'm hungry cause my mom would of beat the crap outta me. I never spoke unless spoken too, especially when adults were involved int heir conversations and I never spoke back to my mother. I'm glad I was raised as I was, my mother taught me morals, respect, and manners amoungst other things. I'm not saying these things can't be taught without discipline, I'm sure they can, but sometimes a good swif smack might just do the trick.

So, I personally, do not think spanking is child abuse. If you beat them to a pulp, if you deprive them of food, clothing, and water, if you sexually abuse your child, if you keep your child locked up in a basement and don't allow them out....THAT'S child abuse.

Answer 2

It depends on the measures of the spanking. if the parent over uses the privlage to spank their child and use it as an abuse then yes, but if the parent is just spanking them for something the child did wrong and is not being abusive then no. when a parent spanks a child it is to tell them they love them and to let the child know they shouldn't have been doing what they were doing.

Answer 3

I consider hitting out of anger child abuse, but not spanking.. If it's done in the right way, it's a good thing. After a spanking, my husband and I go into our son's room and let him know why he got a spanking... It's rare that we even give him a spanking anymore.. I think that stems from the fact that we started disciplining at a young age. And, let's face it.. Most of us were spanked as kids.. What makes it so wrong now???

Answer 4

I used to think spanking was ok.. until i was old enough and smart enough to realize the hell i grew up in. My dad was abusive to us (physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, spiritually.. you name it) and both of my parents spanked. Sometimes my mom would bust out the wooden spoon and spanking by my dad alwasy meant with the belt. As we got older my mom would still spank us- but didnt think it was appropriate to 'spank' at those ages- so instead- when i was in high school- if i got into trouble she would slap my face. It didn't hit me until later just how much that had bothered me and how horribly wrong it was of BOTH of them. Anyways many people argue spanking is ok - but anything more is abuse. It's hard to draw the line- and as kids get older you spank harder etc etc.. or need to 'do something else' because the spankings dont mean crap to them.

On it's basic level spanking is hitting. And i do not believe you can teach children/young adults disciplin with violence. You are only teaching them that violence is ok and acceptable if someone is doing something "wrong"...

All children misbehave for 1 reason and 1 reason only- and it is because they are craving attention of somesort. There are a million other ways to disciplin a child and teach them a lesson instead of spanking. I also learned as i got older- i was scared of my parents because i had the fear of their 'spankings' so i just snuck around more and kept a distance from them and we had no communication. I wasn't comfortable telling them ANYTHING> that is not how it should be. Children should be comfortable telling their parents things- even though they may not want to-- they should be able to without fear. Homes should be a safehaven.

Answer 5

No, although some people who "spank" don't know when to quit and it can go into physical abuse fairly quickly.

Between the ages of 18 months and 6 years, it is all that is effective much of the time, and should be reserved for the most severe of infractions (something that will cause danger) when you want the ONE time discipline to "take". Before 18 months, they don't connect the dots, can't make the connection between their actions and the spanking. After age 6, if they are normal mental development, should be able to use punishment of a non-physical type (time out/removal of something they favor).

Answer 6

Spanking isnt child abuse unless it keeps happening over and over again for no reason, to the point where the child is in danger and is being hurt. Spanking a child once to correct them for doing something bad is totally different.

Answer 7

I do not resortr to spanking my kids, but know people who do. I would not consider it child abuse unless it leaves a mark on the childs BODY OR MIND.

Answer 8

No. There is a difference between a simple spanking and a beating.

Answer 9

spanking = a squat on the butt,hand, upper and lower thigh. i don't consider it abuse

child abuse= violently shaking the baby, throwing the baby, kicking, punching, smacking etc.

alot of people may argue that spanking is child abuse. but spanking is not illegal. abusing the child is.

Answer 10

not really, but there are some people that do.
I think depending on what they do and how hard you spank them and how old they are all have an impact on the anser to this question.
i do think that there are alternate ways to handle a punishment and people shouldn't immediately resort to spanking, but everyone is different and so are kids.