I recently found out the person I've been chatting with is paralyzed. We recently started talking on the telephone. I enjoy our conversations because he have so much in common. He makes me laugh until my cheeks hurt or I'm in tears. My issue is that I've never known anyone in a wheelchair. I've been reading up on paralysis and I have found out some very interesting things..things that make me think he's even more amazing. But I'm single, with no children, I don't know if I'm ready for this...
Has anyone ever been in this situation...if so please share your experience...thanks!
2006-11-13 04:15:38 · 4 answers · asked by Nancy 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
As I read your question I smiled. I think what you have in this relationship is very special regardless of whether it is just friendship or more. How many people can say they have someone in their life that makes them laugh that much! Talk to him and ask him questions about life using a wheel chair. If you guys are that good of friends he wont mind and will probably be relieved that you asked questions rather than keeping your feelings of uncertainty to yourself. Make sure when you have that conversation with him you both are relaxed and feeling open. I have worked with people with disabilities for the past ten years and you will get to the point you don't even see his wheel chair, you will just see him for who he is and the wonderful person who makes you laugh. You are obviously already on that track. I don't know if you believe in God but I think he has matched you two for a reason even if it is only for friendship. If it is meant for more then God will work on your hearts to make it possible. Just pray and take it one day at a time and thank God for putting this person in your life for the blessings it gave if only for a brief moment or a life time.
2006-11-13 04:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by LaHoma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has cerebral palsy...it took a little to get used to that idea when I found out (before we met, we met online also). My advice is to just keep talking to him, get to know him better, and when you finally meet him, you may not even notice the wheelchair. If you do, and if it bothers you, be honest with him, tell him how you feel, and maybe you can stay friends. If he's looking for a girlfriend, he needs to have the knowledge that you aren't up to it (if you aren't) so he can move on, but you could still be friends, and talk sometimes.
2006-11-13 12:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no problem in having a paralysed friend. If you have things in common, keep this up. It is up to you if you will get romantically involved. I mean, you don't necessarily have to, but you don't have to stop talking altogether. Try not to treat him differently. I mean, even if you don't want an affair with him, it is Ok to say so, and just be friends!
2006-11-13 12:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a really special person to handle this type of situation. Only you can know if you can do it. If you decide to try, I hope you succeed. Good Luck
2006-11-13 12:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋