my friend and my bf had history and then they split up right after they had sex. we have been dating for almost 2 months and we have had sex. will he do it to me too?
2006-11-13 04:11:16 · 10 answers · asked by bryanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't know that he'll dump you, because every relationship is different. But you're having doubts, so this means that you may be insecure about the relationship.
Ann Landers has this to say about the difference between love and infatuation: " Infatuation is fleeting desire -- one set of glands calling to another. It is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about the relationship that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. It is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him." Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's being unfaithful. Sometimes, you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you better than you were before. "
The best thing you can do is talk to him and tell him your feelings. If he's sensitive and kind, he will re-assure you and hug you and tell you that you are wonderful. You should also talk about what happened in the other relationship, and why he dumped her. That will give you an insight into what went wrong, as well as how mature he is. And you can see if you really want to continue with him or not. You also have the power to choose here, too. The power isn't all with him!
Sex is so powerful and so wonderful, but when you're young, it can be so overwhelming. Sex opens up your heart in such a powerful, deep way! I know; I'm 38 now, but I had sex when I was 17, and it was wonderful, but overpowering. And it adds such depth and such an adult tone to a relationship.
Good luck to you. I hope you are with a guy who realizes just how special and wonderful you are, and when you have sex together, it's more than just sex, but making love too, and celebrating each other. :)
Cheers and best of luck, K
2006-11-13 04:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely. Granted this relationship could be "special" and "break all the trends", this could be "the one". I'm predict this relationship will break the trend, and go 2 months an a week.
2006-11-13 12:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont have sex right away give it 4 more months then go for it or a year just take youre time
2006-11-13 12:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had this in mind, why would you sleep with him in the first place. Think about it. Maybe you should dump him now, especially if you see it coming. See how he likes it. Why would you take your friend's leftover. Please think next time before you just give it away like that. He got what he wanted.
2006-11-13 12:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have sex with him in the first place if you can't trust his intentions? I realize that point is moot, but moving forward, I would wonder why you'd stay with someone if you feel you cannot talk with him openly about your relationship and your concerns about his behavior pattern. If you can't talk with him, this isn't a relationship.
2006-11-13 12:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i would have never got with one of my friends ex bf because that can cause alot of problems but if you two have had sex more than once chances are that he wont dump you. maybe she wasnt good or something. guys are confusing sometimes.
2006-11-13 12:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Icys 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was with your friend, screwed her over, then you got with him? Doesn't seem very smart. I think you are just setting yourself up for a disappointment. I can't believe you went with a guy that had sex with your friend and dropped her...what are you thinking? This guy is out for one thing and if you didn't learn from your friends mistake, I dunno what else to say but good luck.
2006-11-13 12:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some times guys just want to have sex with as many girls as possible. Maybe he will maybe he won't.
2006-11-13 12:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i just told you that he would, hun. maybe not right away, but he probably will. i hate to be a downer. sorry
2006-11-13 12:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably.
2006-11-13 12:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by black butterfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋