* 6 years relationship
* he still madly in love with me (he turns violent to prevent me from leaving him)
* I dont trust him anymore
* No future or developement seems ahead
2006-11-13 03:54:38 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it can just die out especiallyl when the person who you used to love changes into a raving violent lunatic. Get out and save yourself before he does some serious fatal damage to you. Ge out now!!!!! You don't deserve the way he is treating you. You are better than that. He's the one with the problem. Love is everchanging or can be stable. In your case, not only is it dead, you must bury it and not look back.
2006-11-13 03:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think it is necessarily that love dies out. I am 20 years old and just found out that my parents are getting divorced after 22 years of marriage. I don't think it is because they don't love each other, I believe that some people just aren't meant to be together FOREVER. And as for your case, no man or woman should ever turn violent towards someone they "love"....that isn't love, it's control. Leave.
2006-11-13 03:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by be_loved5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first intense period of love can last one to three years. After that, these feelings subside. But if two people are compatible, there are many ways to renew a flagging partnership. Novelty can spur romance; sex can trigger it, too. Do some of the things that you used to when you were first dating.
Note: if he's violent.. you need to get away from him. I don't care what the circumstances are.
2006-11-13 03:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Farnsworth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence to prevent you from leaving? Ruuuuuun!!!! Violence has never been a good measure of 'being madly loved'. More like being mad, pardon my saying so.
That shows you are not loved, but just seen as a possession. You are there only because you must not leave first. Anyone leaving will have to be 'me' (your man).
2006-11-13 04:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Killmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear,if the trust isnt there,then its not true love.if hes that violent now what would it be like if you 2 get married?i have to say talk to him and tell him about your feelings and suggest both of you go your seperate ways,because its obvious that the trust isnt there for both of you.it is essensial that there is trust between 2 people when married or in a relationship.good luck dear.
2006-11-13 04:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that because your boyfriend seems to have gone a little crazy, that that is it for you. I know that I used to date a guy like that and it is REAL easy for love to just die out when they treat you with disrespect. Now I am out of that relationship and in one with someone that I truly love and respect, and he feels the same for me.
Odd that I always asked that same question before, but now it seems that our love just gets stronger the longer we are together. I think that you might be with the wrong person....good luck though...and never put up with someone disrespecting you.
2006-11-13 04:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure Love can die.......if you let it.
You made it past the 5 year hump.
Why do you want to leave him? Have to talked to him about your goals and expectations?
Why did you lose trust? If he hurt you than you need to address that issue.
You need to sit down and discuss your future and what would it take for you to grow together.
Good Luck
2006-11-13 04:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by txdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in an abusive relationship and need to get out and move on. and if you dont see a future with the guy and don't see yourself marrying him one day then you need to move one. you're wasting both your and his time cause ya'll could be meeting ya'lls future husband or wife in another relationship. 6 yrs is way too long to be in a relationship if you dont have a future with the person.
2006-11-13 03:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things aren't meant to be, the longer with with him, someone who your not going to marry, the more time your wasting, you could of actually meet your future husband already, but you've decided to spend time with someone who is violent, and you don't trust, and you have no future with, cut you losses, it will be hard but do it.
2006-11-13 03:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love, like plants, dies from lack of nourishment
like not enough water, food, air.
relationships require a lot of tending. it is hard work.
something has to change.
either you need to leave or change things.
don't wait for him to change.
the violence is unacceptable.
don't threaten to leave. if you are leaving, just leave.
if you are staying, then do something different.
try the book "getting the love you want"
the techniques really work to heal a relationship such as yours.
you can probably get it at the library.
2006-11-13 03:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋