My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now. Everything seems to be great, he's told me he loves me, and I love him. The only problem (for me, at least) is that he's still really close to his ex. He dated her for 3 years (they even lived together). They broke up right before he and I met. He's seen her once since they broke up, and apparently, she really wants him back. He assures me that he's over her, but I'm still really worried about him going home for winter break. He lives far away, and he said he thought it might be "too serious" or "too big of a deal" for me to come visit. I can understand that because we haven't been dating that long. At the same time, I'm worried about him seeing his ex again. Should I be worried or am I just being paranoid?
2006-11-13 03:41:09 · 4 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually do think it's possible for us to love each other already. This relationship is different than any other one I've been in. We're in school together, and we hang out everyday. In fact, we've both remarked that it feels like we've been dating for 6 months even though it's only been 3. As far as visiting him for winter break, how can I if he doesn't want me to come?
2006-11-13 03:46:40 · update #1
Your just being paranoid unless he gives you a reason to worry. Let him go home and see what happens and if he does see her and something happens then it is his loss and meant to be and you both will be better off even though you feel neglected and wonder what you did wrong it is meant to be and you can move on. But I wouldn't worry about it till if something happens
2006-11-13 03:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it bothers you that he sees his ex so much. There are millions of other people for him to hang out with, he doesn't need to be hanging out with her.
If you can, go visit him for the winter break. It would be fun and a nice chance to visit his family. Just don't come off as being too clingy or untrusting.
2006-11-13 11:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon for you to decide. Your decision should be whether to try trusting him with this. If you do and he goes home and comes back to you with a clean heart and mind, you have begun to build trust. That is how good relationships start.
2006-11-13 11:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating him for 3 months there is no way in hell that you too love each other. Try running that game somewhere else.
2006-11-13 11:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Saints friend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋