My now ex-boyfriend shane got locked up for something and while he was locked started writing me letters accusing me of cheating on him. He never once would have thought such a thing until he got locked up. He was in jail for maybe 4 months and he recently got out. The entire time he was locked up I wrote him every day but yet now he doesn't want anything to do with me. He won't even speak to me at all. How should I emotionally take all this?
2006-11-13 03:40:53 · 10 answers · asked by Holly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I work with teens at JV hall almost ever one of them accuse there girls or the girls accuse there boyfriends of cheating on them, maybe the is a good time for you to re evaluate the relationship, do you actually want a guy who gets in trouble still? you deserve someone who treats you better, guys who get in trouble still, have selfish desires, he need to look at himself, and fix him self before he can properly take care of you, this is a blessing in disguise, time will heal all pain
2006-11-13 03:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what if he doesn't want you, even though you love him maybe you should just cut your losses and give him time and space and hopefully he will want you back.
The fact that he accused you of cheating on him while he was locked up could have been his way of dealing with being apart from you, and now that he is back, maybe he is feeling a little guilty for accusing you considering that you didn't do anything and to ease his conscious maybe the only way he can deal with it is to say that he no longer wants to be with you.
However you need to sit down and work out do you really want him in your life, and if you do then try contacting him again and maybe you can invite him out so that you can talk about things. However if he does agree to meet don't expect too much from it because he may tell you that he wants things to end if he does then move on and don't waste anymore time on him. Love is not suppose to hurt
2006-11-13 11:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prison can be a very lonley time for some one, and when yourlonley you think alot. So his mind will have gone into over drive thinking "whats she doing, who's she with" and so on.. he's locked up in a tiny pad with no freedom so it will have done his head in. I kno it must be very hard for you because you stood by him while he was locked up, but maybe you could write him a letter just sayin you never did any thing while he wasn around.. and that you still love him. If he doesn wanna hear that then you just have to step back. good luck hun xx Let me kno what happens
2006-11-13 11:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by rochie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only option you have is to walk away from it. Why would you want to cling to someone who not only accuses you of things you didn't do, but won't even speak to you now? Don't you know that you are worth more than that?
Consider it an opportunity. Shane has opened the door for you to meet someone who will value the time they spend with you, hon.
And just accept it as one of lifes' lessons. Sometimes, we invest ourselves in people who simply aren't worth it.
2006-11-13 11:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its time to let go hun. Not to sound harsh but if hes saying he dont love you anymore then its not worth getting hurt anymore. You cant make someone love you.
Look to the future, make plans on something you have wanted to do for a while, have fun.
Good luck xx
2006-11-13 11:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET IT GO....MY EX BOYFRIEND WAS LOCKED UP FOR ABOUT A MONTH AND HE ACCUSED ME OF CHEATING ON HIM TO...SO I WAS LIKE WHATEVA...BUT UNFORTUNETLY THE 3 YEAR RELATIONSHIP CAME TO AN END.I DONT LIKE TO BE ACCUSED OF DOING ANYTHING BECAUSE SOON OR LATER I WILL CHEAT IF IM ALREADY ACCUSED OF DOING IT....I KNOW ITS HARD BECAUSE YOU FEEL YOU STUCK BY HIS SIDE WHILE HE WAS LOCKED UP....LOOK AT THIS WAY ATLEAST YOU WILL BE BLESSED HUN AND HE WANT....
2006-11-13 11:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Unique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a big blow for anyone to handle. it seems that he has changed his thoughts about you drastically and that probably changed the way he feels about you. if you know you were faithful to him in your relationship that's all you need to know, have you let him know that?? if you have that's good. You should try and move on you could find someone better who will treat you the way you deserve. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 11:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by mk2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't want you. All i can say is go on with your life. If it's meant to be he will come back. But just remember their are more fish out in the sea. LOL. Good luck.
2006-11-13 11:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by Qt PIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a male for ya, i would say move on and find someone who will love you for you, it doesn't sound like he really loved you the start with or he would of realize who was there beside him in his time of need but, they are all a -holes most of themi am trying to get over someone i been married to for 20 yrs, and i still love him but he wants to hold on to me but wants everyone else to, talk yourself into getting strong and getting on with your life and i am trying to convince myself the same thing good luck, by tuffy, bye
2006-11-13 11:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by tuffy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move ahead in life. From what you wrote in the question, he is not the right one for you.
2006-11-13 11:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by regis_cabral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋