I met a guy two weeks ago who lives pretty local. Ive spoke to him every day since and we've been in contact by text a few times each day.
He stayed over on Friday night and one thing led to another. I did say that i didnt want him to think bad of me as I never do this whole sleeping thing after such a short time!
He said that he wouldn't, that I'm lovely, he likes me etc etc, and he did text yesterday with all the "babe" and kisses etc but will he now lose interest taht ive given him what he wanted too early?
How do i go about finding out what he wants? do i wait to hear from him? or ring him or text etc?
2006-11-13 03:37:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you may be wrong to think that the guy only wanted to sleep with you then leave you. its really inaccurate sometimes to think that men only hang around someone only to have sex and the leave. And for your own information, i dont think guys always think that when you get to sleep with a girl especially that early there are not good enough.
i have been in a same situation whereby we used to be friends for some time then we all knew that we had feelings for each other but the day we actually talked about going out officially, we had sex and i always thought she was the best and most down to earth person i have ever met and that experience never changed my thoughts about her even a single bit. i think if he knows that you are a nice person, he will just disregard what happened on that day and focus on you, so just be yourself and show him how down to earth you are (that is if you are) but i think you are a nice person so please dont feel bad about it, just give him time and everthing will be cool hey! good luck
2006-11-13 04:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ayati 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do YOU want to do, it shouldnt be about what anyone else thinks, its about how you feel. If you want to get in touch, do but dont pester him, if you want to see if he contacts you thats ok too. I would maybe just drop him a text saying what a great evening you had, not mentioning the staying over bit, and that you should do it again sometime. Why should women not take the lead?
Dont feel that you have given him what he wanted either, you must have wanted something to happen too, if you didnt then you shouldnt do something to please others.
2006-11-13 11:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by DS02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake. You women think that sex is some toy that you can play with. From a spiritual angle it is pre-adultery if you do not marry the guy. from a womans point of view sex is the real thing every guy wants and you oblige within 2 weeks incredible If i was your boy friend i would have little or no respect for you. So you can decide if you made a mistake or not?
2006-11-13 11:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax!
Think of it this way if he is the kind of guy that only wants to get in your pants then the sooner he goes away the better off you are.
If he is the kind of guy that will stick around, if he is really into you, etc, etc. It wouldn't have matter whether you slept with him 5 minutes after you met him or 5 years.
If it's meant to be it will be, if it doesn't happen then it wasn't meant to be.
2006-11-13 11:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by crazy_monkey_jr010 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you what you do, but if he's already text you then he must want more than just one night. Did he say anything about meeting up when he text you? If not why don't you text him and arrange something? If you go out with him again you don't have to sleep with him on that occasion just because you have already. Do what you want to do and if he only wants you for sex then forget him.
2006-11-13 11:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was in the same situation then i would tell him that u meant what you send when u said to him that u dont normally sleep with guys in such a short time after meeting them and ask him how he feels and see what he says to that answer
2006-11-13 11:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by lillylou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am awful at this whole "dating", "getting to know one another" stages.. my friends always tell me to get in contact but that is because i never contact anyone, and the ball has been left in my court etc, etc...I find it so hard to keep the "ball" in my court - so maybe you should send him a text so not to be too over bearing!!!!
2006-11-13 11:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you want,and he also...So if he really likes you,he will look at that night like some special and not as your mistake!
The same happened to me-and a 2 year relationship was a result :)
2006-11-13 12:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Yasna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him, He is human and he sounds like he wants you as much as you want him.
Why wait for him to make the next move ,
Maybe he is thinking the same as you and waiting for you?
Just break the ice and see what happens, what have you go to lose ?
2006-11-13 11:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by DARES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ring or text him as it will look like your stalking him. If he is geniuenly interested in you then he will make the effort to get in touch with you, however he might just want a repeat performance if he does call you, so be careful.
2006-11-13 11:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jamieson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋