Hiya guys
As some of you are aware i am quite shy and quiet and have liked this guy in work for awhile. The thing is we had 3 new girls in our room and the two are quite flirty and he had to train up one of the flirty gals. Since she started she has been over flirty with him. She had a boyfriend at the time but has now since broke up with him and now im worried shes after the guy i like as she made a comment today ohh had a haircut have you?and she seems to initate conversation everytime he comes in the room. So either she likes him as a friend, is generally flirty or wants more but if she does want him i dont stand much of a chance. Shes so much more confident than me shes been to uni so ozes confidence. Before she turned up i thought i was getting somewherre with the guy as we were getting to know oneanother as hes shy also
2006-11-13 03:29:39 · 12 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him
2006-11-13 03:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by kdjcfc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Joanne, Joanne, Joanne, what am i going to do with you?
The world is a race and unless you start to at least jog a little your going to get left behind.
It's a simple fact that there are very few single people out there who are worth spending some time with, being on here will prove that to you.
When a guy or girl is single and a decent human being, there are going to be quite a few people making a play for them and the unfortunate fact of life is that unless you do something about it and make your intentions clear, your just going to be left in the dust.
The time of being shy and quiet has gone, you tried it and it didn't get you very far, are you just going to sit by and watch this new girl take your man or are you going to do something about it?
She may be just after a fling, so after where does that leave you?
Sloppy seconds?
Your going to have to pluck up some courage and ask him out, this guy is probably loving it with all these girls flirting with him you need to cut to the chase, get in there before it's too late.
2006-11-13 03:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being shy is an obstical you will have too face sometime or other unfortinately the easiest way for you to find out if there is a chance is to be bold. Ask him out to lunch, tell him how you feel away from the office, if you want something then you must ask i know its not easy i used to be shy until i realised, what is the worst that can happen if hes a good guy he will respect you for your honesty and who knows maybe he feels the same
2006-11-13 03:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well start talking to him again, just be yourself. I mean don't let her initimidate you. So what if shes been to Uni? So she knows how to avoid work for three more years than you did - big deal!. Also just cos she flirts doesn't mean to say he's going to fancy her - she might be cr*p at it - she sounds a bit dumb - Oh have you had a haircut? - how obvious is that, and not at all subtle. You have to be cute, subtle and sweet, she is too in his face - he might hate this for all you know. And if he flirts back well so what its good for his ego he has some drippy girl hanging all over him isn't it? Anyway we don't even know what she looks like she might be pig ugly! Just be yourself and chat to him as normal and if she wants to walk round with her head up his butt then more fool her - he'll appreciate having you to talk to like a normal human being trust me.
2006-11-13 03:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a girl flirts, doesnt mean shes going to get anywhere, talk to him as you normally do, guys find overly friendly girls sometimes annoying.
I'd carry on talking to him, get to know him, be his friend first. Show him how wonderful you are and how annoying they are. Don't be shy. Everyone is shy around people they like, but if you dont try, wouldnt you hate yourself for it later?
2006-11-13 03:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you have to come with a lot more confidence. If you don't believe you stand a chance because of someone else, then you really don't. You have to keep telling yourself that you're worth him being yours just as much or more as she is. One thing I have learned with this is you have to know that no matter who comes along, you got it going on too and if he doesn't notice with you being you, you don't want him no way because if you did get him and you couldn't be comfortable being you, it would drive you crazy trying to be someone else.
hope this makes since
good luck
2006-11-13 03:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever it is, do not try to get into a competition with the other girl. Sooner or later he will get bored with her and in the meanwhile, try to please him in your own way and do not run away from group parties where they both are involved. Include yourself and make sure you are surrounded by other friends. You never know, you might find a new person yourself.
2006-11-13 03:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by peter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if you wanted him then go for it dress a little more sexy ask him for his number ask him out take a walk at lunch time tell him how you fill about him let you're hair down put on some make up do the dam thing
2006-11-13 03:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that you don't really care, and if he really likes you he will do something about it. I woudl prefer a girl that is decent as opposed to a flirty one!!
2006-11-13 03:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by Yahia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's shy as well you're never going to get anywhere! Get filrty and confident quickly!!
2006-11-13 03:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you knew that you liked him for a while why didnt you tell him? Its your fault if he goes for these other girls and you didnt say anything.
2006-11-13 03:32:18 · answer #11 · answered by Saints friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋