Do you think it is okay to bribe men to do chores using sex as their reward? I mean it always works, but am I the only one using it to my advantage and is it ok?
Before you send me harassing answers, keep in mind I have been with this guy for many years and have four children. There is a lot of work to be done and he is some what lazy.
2006-11-13 03:23:02 · 42 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to add that we do have regular sex quit often without the bribe.
2006-11-13 03:30:17 · update #1
Girl, it is totally ok!!! You gotta give a little to get a little!!
2006-11-13 03:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by starbrite 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course! I like this solution so much better than trying to change the nature of a man. Women should learn that after 3 years their man is still going to be into all that crap that totally annoys them. Women will never be able to change the things their men do, but they can use the fact that men enjoy sex to their advantage, the problem only arises when the women finally figure out that while they think they are the Grandmasters in this huge manipulation scenario, they are actually the ones getting manipulated. "Honey, if you take the dog for a walk, you can come back here for some more "doggie"..." only equates to "Haha, I'll get laid if I do these stupid little tasks."
So I ask you, who's bribing who?
2006-11-13 03:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You don't think that's sending him the wrong message?
You would put out a vibe that sex for you is nothing more than a chore. Eventually, he'll pick up on that sex for you is only to be given as a reward and not something that you actually WANT to do (which is very important to us).
2006-11-13 03:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!! the more sex the more he will do. Just make sure to offer it after he has done the chore. Tell him that he will get lucky before hand, let him finish up the chore, then tell him, wow you are so awesome and drag him to bed. Pretty soon you wont have to ask just remember to give out the reward. Works like a charm!
2006-11-13 03:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will use love to get sex and women will use sex to get love. It have been that way since some one looked under the others bearskin and noticed that there was a difference. It is one of the most powerful weapons/devices you can have. Use it as you see fit. As long as you get what you want then he is getting what he wants. It may grow old after awhile, but use it as you see fit.
2006-11-13 03:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is OK sometimes but if you have to do it every time to get him to cooperate, that could be a problem because one day you aren't going to want to bribe him, you're just going to want him to do it and he's going to be so used to that, he won't have it no other way. Once that happens it could cause even bigger problems.
Good luck
2006-11-13 03:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like fun....
If you are along side him helping with other chores, find a skimpy little outfit to intice and tease him (I suppose you would have to get rid of the kids first lol)
Although I do see a flaw in my thinking process...the chores possibly wouldn't get done!
2006-11-14 23:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you assume its a headgame if a spouse would not desire to have intercourse? your entire paragraph thoroughly limits the excuses as to why she isn't sexual. you may no longer purely sit down right here and assume the only motives are because of the fact he would not do house frequent jobs, thats ridiculous. Open your techniques up. "Why do women folk think of this is superb for them to decrease off intercourse on each and every occasion some thing would not circulate their way and that its as much as the husband to do regardless of it takes to purchase and bribe their way into having intercourse lower back ? " i do no longer think of thats ok. I do think of its okay to no longer have intercourse in case you do no longer desire to. of course the shortcoming of a intercourse force is a demonstration that there are different issues interior the courting. you have a cheaters mentality. you think of its ok for a guy to circulate outdoors of his marraige to fulfill his sexual desires, thats dishonest! i think of the difficulty which contain your prepare of theory is which you think of if one human being is having a difficulty then that provides the different a reason to cheat. yet in a classic healthful courting... if one human being is having a difficulty, then the two persons are having a difficulty. Marriage is teamwork, no longer purely you or in simple terms me.
2016-12-17 09:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by civil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest that is all men want or seems like they do anyways so if you can get what you need done by bribing him then i say go for it besides when its all over you both get something you want out of it
2006-11-13 03:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by whitetigereyes8485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Motivate him to help you out, instead of bribing him with sex. What about if he goes outside in search for it? But if he is truly motivated to help you out with work, then the problem will be permanently solved.
2006-11-13 03:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - that is really demeaning and disrespectful to your husband. He should be doing chores because he is part of the family, along with your children.
2006-11-13 03:55:17 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋