I am 19 obessed with how I look and what others think of me. On Saturday I asked a girl I like if she would like to go out with me she said no. I've never had a girl friend before. I am obsessed with my weigh I am 5ft 6 weigh 57kg want to drop to 53kgs. I feel fat even though my underwear and jean size is small I am a 28ins waist. I think I suffer more than depression . Besides the sadness the constant I am not good enough thoughts going through my mind I have feelings that I am ugly and diserve to stay single that thats my punishement. I have a karate comp on Sunday it's my first biggie karate is the only thing I was ever told I was good at so I am afraid incase I am terrible. I'm just looking for a friend.
2006-11-13 02:46:21 · 9 answers · asked by davidleeryan 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think that you need more than a friend...I think that you need someone that you can talk to who can help with why you are feeling this way. Best of Luck!
2006-11-13 02:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. You need more confidence, and you can get some from excelling in karate, but if you let that be your only thing you're focused on, you will be very devastated if you lose a competition.
Don't be a perfectionist, it will ruin your life! I know because i struggle with the same thing, and i hate it when someone is better than me!
But back to the counseling, tell them all you are dealing with. they will have some suggestions. If you are feeling this bad, you are probably not ready for a relationship and should just try to make friends. people get really put-off when you talk about yourself too much or complain about how you look, or even just pout and look miserable. So try your best to be more open and a listener. Be supportive of the other people who train in karate with you. congratulate them when they do well. Soon you will genuinely feel happy for them and stop worrying about yourself and not being "good enough". You become better by being around other people who are successful or good at what they do. So don't let it intimidate you when people are better at something. that's what I found works for me.
best of luck!
2006-11-13 05:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 09:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by civil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to care about how you look, but not to obcession. It's OK to want others to think well of you, but you can't please eveyone. The fact that one girl turned you down doesn't mean ALL girls will.
I suggest you get involved in church, not as a means to meet girls, but to get involved in youth groups. I believe this will help you get some friends, show tou trhat YOU are not alone in the way you feel. And if along the way you get Christ in your heart....Hallelujah!!
Good luck.
2006-11-13 02:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW 1 THING I AM 85 KG AND I AM ONLY 5'2 IN HEIGHT BUT I NEVER LET ANYONE TALK ABOUT IT NOR EVEN MY REALTIVES. AS I FEEL THAT I AM LETTING INSULT GOD WHO CREATED ME AND MY FACE , MY STRUCTURE AND MY LIFE.NO I DONT WANT ANYONE TO DO THAT.
BE STRONG AND CONFIDENT.THERE CAN NEVER BE A FACE SAME AS YOU POSSESS IN THIS ENTIRE WORLD.7 PEOPLE LOOK ALIKE IS RUBBISH .ITS A COMPLETE LIE.NO ONE IS THE SAME UNLESS YOU ARE A TWIN.HA HA.YOU SHOULD TELL ANYONE WHO SAYS"HAVE YOU SEEN YOUR FACE IN MIRROR?"THAT YES I SEE MY FACE AND I SEE GODS MARVELLOUS CREATION IN IT.BE PROUD OF WHAT YOU ARE.PHYSICAL APPEARENCE HAS NO MATCH WITH INTERNAL CONFIDENCE AND BEAUTY.ALWAYS FEEL THAT THE MOST SUPERIOR RULER OF THE WORLD GOD LOVES YOU AS HE CREATED YOU.BE PROUD OF WHATEVER YOU ARE.SOON YOU WILL HAVE GOOD FRIENDS .I THINK I WILL START..
HEY FRIEND CAN I BE YOUR PAL?YOU PUT @YAHOO.COM AFTER MY NICK NAME AND YOU GET ACCESS TO MY MAIL.
I WILL SURELY BE YOUR FRIEND.I PROMISE.
ALL THE BEST.
2006-11-13 03:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by julianavlon 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you answered your own question!
"Karate is the only thing I was ever told I was good at"...!
Learned behaviour..you need some counselling. I don't know who made you feel so inadequate, but it must be dealt with.
It won't change .. get some help, please
2006-11-13 03:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by gemma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Travel
2006-11-13 02:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by maussy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go to a doctor and take meds.
2006-11-13 06:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Stella G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would make love to you
2006-11-13 02:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by reginuta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋