What are some ways I can learn to look on the bright side of life and not be so depressed and stressed? Has anyone experienced this and what did you do?
2006-11-13 02:44:11 · 16 answers · asked by Cheyne 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am not suicidal. I do not want to leave this life. I just want to learn to enjoy the little things in life as I wait for my big dreams to come true. Please don't respond if it has to do with suicide or if it is a smart mouth answer.
2006-11-13 02:53:03 · update #1
Yes, we all have had that experience. You will have to make an effort to help yourself and believe you are worthy of a better life. Maybe this will help you. I read it every morning:
Just For Today
Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that "most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.
Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse or neglect it, so that it will be the perfect machine for my bidding.
Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will learn something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do two things, that I don't want to do, just for exercise.
Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate or improve anyone.
Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not try to tackle my whole life problem at once.
Just for today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but it will eliminate two pests: Hurrying and Indecision.
Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself to relax. In this half hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.
Just for today I will be unafraid, especially, I will not be unafraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.
2006-11-13 02:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really takes time. I don't believe there is a right thing to say when a person is hurting that will fix everything instantly. Hopefully
a seed will be planted and you can draw from it.
Cicumstances will not change around you but an attitude change helps..
My wife and I have our problems but not with one another.
I'm not working and we don't have much to live on. I have my driver's license and can't aford a car. Many couples have two or more vehicels, their own home, a country place, both work and the next thing some are breaking up or going around with long faces. And I always look at those worse off. Try to count your blessings. Unhappy people are amoung the well to do as in any
class. Maybe they've spent their lives living for themselves. That seems to be the route of much unhappines no matter how wealthy one is.
2006-11-13 11:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Beloved of God, First of all, I want you to know that I do understand what you mean. I have been there myself.
Second, be good to yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't listen when people are negative. If you want to be able to look on the bright side of things, I suggest that you start a spiritual practice such as meditation. This will help you to calm your mind and help you to see just how wonderful you. You are more than you know are. You are so loved of God. In fact, the whole reason you are here is because God's love for you is so great that God created you.
Give yourself some time every day to pamper yourself. Take a nice warm bath (my wife really likes it). Get a massage. Dress up. Start lightly exercising. Read some inspiring books - Power of Positive Thinking is a good one. Subscribe to a spiritual news letter like the one at GetConnectedToGod.com. See a counselor. I wish I could explain to you well enough just how much you are loved. I open my heart to you and am sending love to you. I hope that you can feel just how much you are loved - right now.
Beloved, be easy on yourself, know that you are loved, and know that my family and I will have you in our thoughts.
2006-11-13 11:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by wadkinsjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal. Anyone who has not experienced this is either lying or abnormal. A lot of depression comes from a chemical/hormonal unbalance. I don't recommend meds as they can dull you up and give you unpleasant side affects, but surrounding yourself with genuine supportive people, good music, art, books.......learn to count your blessings and appreciate what you have, who you are. Love yourself. Get in touch with your higher self (God) and know that this is life; sometimes it sucks big time, and sometimes it can be beautiful. Dr. Deepak Chopra says the the nature of the uniververse is to give you what you want; so much so, that if you're afraid it won't do that, it'll do just that.....not give you what you want. Hang in there. Share your burdens, reach out, help someone who is in worse shape than you are. You'd be surprized how quickly you forget your own miserable stuff when you help others in need. Take care.
2006-11-13 10:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it about your life that you are unhappy about? Is it your job? Your relationship? Your family? Find out what is wrong and try to improve it.
Let me give you an example. I was MISERABLE with my life about six months ago. I had a job that made me very unhappy, friends that put me down, and a boyfriend who was addicted to drugs. I decided that I had enough with all the BS and was ready for a new life. So I dumped my boyfriend, quit my job, and moved away from my friends.
I have to admit it was one of the hardest things I have ever done but I am very happy today and I definitely appreciate everything that I have. If you want specifics on how I can help you, feel free to email me!
2006-11-13 10:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ONLY THING THAT MAKES A PERSON HAPPY IS ONLY WHEN HE RECOGNISES THAT THE SURPRISES KEPT AT EACH TURN OF YOUR LIFE HOWEVER BIG OR SMALL THEY MAY BE, ARE VERY DIFFERENT FROM OTHERS.NO TWO PERSONS CAN GET THE SAME GIFT.YOU ARE UNIQUE TO GOD IN SOME OR THE OTHER.SO BE HAPPY THAT YOU ARE GETTING SOMETHING IN PLACE OF NOTHING IN YOUR LIFE AS MANY PEOPLE DONT EVEN HAVE THIS LUCK.YOU ARE A LUCKY PERSON AS YOU GOT THE VERY THOUGHT THAT YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR SMALL SURPRISES WHILE WAITING FOR THE ONES YOU WANT TO COME IN FRONT OF YOU.
SEE WHEN YOU GET AN UNEXPECTED 100 RUPEE NOTE IN A SMALL BET YOU WILL BE HAPPY AS YOU GOT IT SUDDENLY WHEN YOU WEREN'T EXPECTING IT.THE SAME WAY YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH THE SUDDEN SURPRISES THAT GOD SHOWERS ON YOU.
ALL THE BEST FRIEND.
2006-11-13 10:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by julianavlon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheyne, when you are unhappy with your life, try this: Try to make people around you happy. Help someone out with the grocery who could not afford it. Volunteer to do something in your community for a social purpose.
In general, try to bring joy and happiness to people as the opportunity avails. In this way you will feel fulfilled and then happy or joyful about your life. Also try to participate in church meetings or you could give to a missionary work e.g Benny Hinn Ministries is involved with hospital missions in India and healing crusades all over the world. Become a partner with him financially. Go to www.bennyhinn.org
2006-11-13 10:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Prodigy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, your not alone, "everyone" gets depressed its how u use the coping strategy to get over it. Look at WHY your depressed, WHO is causing it, then look at ways of working around it, if someone is making you depressed "tell them" they may not realise they are doing so. If its life try changing your routine.
eat healthy food fish is very good try and saty of medication as you can become dependant and talk to people friends family. See if there is a help line that you can phone.
leave positive postit notes around your home/room and smile!!
2006-11-13 10:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by dave c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that happens to everyone from time to time. I would say just try to take your life one day at a time, don't speed ahead of yourself. I don't know your situation but just imagine there are alot of people in this world that are going through far worse than you. There are people out there that have no home, no heat and no food. Try to look forward to things, take yourself out, treat yourself!! you deserve it! go get a pedicure and a nice massage. Huny, any day above ground is a good day. Remember that.
Good luck and God Bless.
2006-11-13 11:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jessi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh and how! I can tell you that I use to have this problem all the time! I found out it was mostly my poor diet- I aam a major junkfood junkie! Also for me the cure was prayer! It's not easy but....Fake it till you make it! I would suggest writing down at least one thing that you are thankful for everyday! It helps! Try to focus on small things that make you smile...for me it's watching kids play because they have natural joy that is infectious!
2006-11-13 10:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by peace2all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋