Peace and Love
2006-11-13 02:40:55 · 12 answers · asked by digilook 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
DEFINITELY!!!
We are told in Matthew that we are turned over to the tormentors
when we refuse to forgive.
Peace of mind is impossible, if we are holding unforgiveness in our hearts.
2006-11-13 03:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No forgiving someone does not always bring peace of mind. And sometimes it's inappropriate to forgive someone.
If someone kills one of your loved ones or close friends, why would anyone think it was their place to forgive? They were not the person killed. How can I forgive a person for what they've done to some one else? It might make some individuals feel all warm and fuzzy, but it really means nothing. If some one you love is murdered, feeling warm and fuzzy is not an appropriate reaction.
Also, some one already pointed out that it means nothing to forgive someone who hasn't asked for forgiveness.
Contrary to what many claim, you don't have to forgive someone to get past whatever's happened. You just have to remember that life is not always fair. Get on with it and live your life the best way you can without obsessing. The "life is not always fair" thing is something my parents taught me when I was about five years old.
Forgiveness can be a healing thing - when it's appropriate. To force it means absolutely nothing.
2006-11-13 03:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by "forgive".
If you mean the common automatic letting of the hook someone who does harm, then, no, I don't think that really helps. I don't think forgiveness should be an automatic thing. If the person comes to you and shows that he wishes to make amends for wrong actions or is at least willing to admit wronghood and try not to cause further harm, then perhaps, depending on the nature of what happened. But that's a personal decision.
If by "forgive", you mean to not obsess about it, then, yes, that can help. If someone does something bad to you, or if you do something bad, it is immediately in the past and there's nothing really you can do to completely fix it. You shouldn't worry about that which you have no control over. If you're at fault, all you can do is move forward and try to make amends or try to learn from past mistakes. If another is at fault, then it does no good to obsess about that one aspect of that person. Remember that a person is more than any particular action. It does not make a person automatically a bad person, though it might be something you don't like about the person. Deal with people realistically and don't over-generalize. You can even love someone who has done something you don't like. It depends on what positive things the person has done and what negative things the person did.
If someone's action in the past is really causing you heartache and is eating you up, then it is not that person's fault in the present. It was only the person's fault in the past. It is you who is holding onto it and obsessing about it now. You have a lot of control over how other people affect you. You can either sit there and obsess, or you can move on and take constructive measures from now on.
2006-11-13 02:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...You are 'required' to forgive others. However you are only required to sincerely clean off your side of the street. What the other party does with it is none of your business. The reward will be yours. See Page 552, AA big Book, 3RD EDITION. See any 12 Step program for further information.
2006-11-13 02:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by MaximumFunds4US@aol.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what the Lords Prayer tells us to forgive us our debts (sins) as we also have forgiven our debtors..
For if you forgive men their trasspasses , your heavenly Father will also forgive you....Matthew 6:9-15
I have found a whole lot of peace of mind finding out that if you ask God to forgive you he does imediately and never remembers it again...but if we don't forgive others God is not obligated to forgive us...
So I try my best to be kind and forgiving so I may not be judged harshly
2006-11-13 02:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most definitely.
I make this my primary practice.
It is the exact same thing that religious people practice, in fact. But instead of forgiving themselves, they ask their imaginary god to forgive them.
But the effect is the same. Their guilt goes away.
2006-11-13 02:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes it isbest when people take time to forgive themselves for their mistakes, otherwise you'll just go around with burdens and guilt on your shoulders, its better that way you don't have to forget but to live life ya gotta learn how to forgive
2006-11-13 02:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by BOOTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 02:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by lesure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Unforgiveness can eat you alive.
2006-11-13 02:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Red neck 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no won can truly forgive someone .we can get past it but to forgive is for christ not man
2006-11-13 02:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋