My daughters were playing with my nephew the other day and my 1 year old wound up hurt. My nephew said my three year old did it and my 1 year old wasn't old enough to say who actually did it. My three year old didn't say anything, and I was furious about my baby having a bloody lip. I punished my three year old and wouldn't let her have cake before bed (it was my dad's birthday and we were having a birthday party.) Today, my three year old tells me finally that SHE didn't push her sister down- that thier cousin did. I called my sister and mentioned it and she called me back a few minutes later to tell me that her son had admitted to her that he was, in fact, the one that hurt the baby. I feel awful now- what can I do to make it up to her?
2006-11-13 02:38:06 · 19 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
be sure to apologize and tell her when you're wrong. It helps to let them know that we're human too! give her some extra squeezes and maybe let her help you bake a new cake so she can have some too. Mistakes happen and kids need to know from the beginning that saying you're sorry and admitting when you've been wrong is important. Also, this would be a great lesson for why not to lie.... other people get hurt!
2006-11-13 04:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by semper411 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this was not your fault. And this could happen again and again. And in situations like these, anybody would loose their sense of logic and question.
THE QUESTION IS NOT ABOUT YOUR 3 YEAR OLD SPEAKING UP. Even if she did speak up on that day, you would have done the same thing... considering the possibility that your there is more chance that your daughter lies to you than her cousin.
Wht you could do is appologize to your 3 yr old that you did something wrong. And warn her that this could happen again. Explain to her that it does not mean that you dont love her and that any mother would loose her sense of wisdom in such situations.
Dont feel ashamed to ask her to forgive you; And give her a token of your love. And appritiate her for the wisdom she had shown to not insult your guest.
2006-11-13 10:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by MobiGuru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what...you handled it the right way...sorta! How old is your nephew?! I would have looked deeper into that..he's pointing fingers TOO quickly for my liking! I would have then said... to the older two...both of you are in big trouble..someone better tell me quick! You still may have gotten the wrong answer...but just tell her that mommy is sorry and next time she needs to tell you when you ask...and she won't get into trouble for telling the truth...We're starting to get this with our 5 yr old...his little brother will cry and come running out and he'll say.."he fell" when we're hearing from the almost 3 yr old..."adam pushed me"
2006-11-13 12:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's just a lesson that your child had to learn and yeah tehy learned the hard way btu they gotta learn sometime right..i know how you feel but you explain to them that when something bad happens like that they have to tell the truth and they will get in trouble if they don't. I think that she will learn a little something from this and tell you the truth next time it happens..
give her a piece of cake..
2006-11-13 11:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since we all make mistakes raising children I'd go to the bakery and get two of the prettiest cupcakes that I could find and put a candle in each. Tell her it is for her and grandpa to celebrate his birthday. Let grandpa in on the surprise. Don't beat up on yourself honey. Hind sight is 20/20.
2006-11-13 12:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a perfect opportunity to teach a lesson, that everyone makes mistakes and that you go to that person and make sure that they know you are sorry. A 3 year old, thank god, tend to be very forgiving. In future you can use this when your children accidentally hurt one another, since you have taught by example.
2006-11-13 10:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Apologise, tell her that you are sorry and that even mommy's make mistakes. Also tell her she should have told you it wasn't her. Make up for it. Give her an extra treat, make/buy a slice of cake just for her or something like that. It's ok to let your kids know that you are human and a good time to start having her stand up for herself.
2006-11-13 18:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by silbesti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that when she sees someone doing a bad thing to let the adults know ASAP. Explain to her than she needs to speak up and always tell you when bad things are goin on. Tell her than you love her very much but that she didnt say anything and that led for you to come up with your own conclusion. Tell her than she needs to always tell the truth even if she thinks that her friends, cusins are goin to get into troble...ask her that if she feels it was worth her gething punished for not ratting out on her cusin ? I mean...she can easiyl take the blaime for something else when it comes down to a friend, you need to teach her to defend herself when she is right and not to be scared of you.
2006-11-13 10:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awww. I hate when this happens, Tell her mommys sorry for punishing her and ask her to tell you when someone gets hurt what happened so you will know the truth.
(she was probably in shock seeing the blood and the yelling)
I fell bad for her tooo!maybe take her out and let her pick out a cool candy! That will always make them feel better, and maybe mommy too!
2006-11-13 10:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to happen again and again as the kids get older. All you do is say you are sorry and explain to her she needs to speak up in the future. I would not go as far as buying a present or anything like that though
2006-11-13 10:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋