i have 7 year old boy that has been putting the clothes that he pees in back in drawers with clean clothes. they are usually pj's or underwear that he has an accident in during the night. he does not get in trouble for having accidents. he only gets in trouble when he hides the "pee" clothes with other clean clothes (and then all the clean clothes stink as does his room). we have tried everything! i don't understand why he keeps doing it. when he has an accident and takes his clothes and bedding to the hamper no one even knows. his brothers don't pick on him and his father and i do not punish him. what can i do?
2006-11-13 02:36:18 · 16 answers · asked by stacym 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well, at 7 years old, a child has a pretty good idea of the difference between right and wrong. I'm sure he's embarassed about peeing himself at 7 years old, and I know that you have probably been very understanding with him and his feelings up until now. I would ask myself a couple questions, such as if he does not get into trouble or get teased, what would his motivation for hiding the pee clothes be? He knows it's wrong, and if he doesn't get teased or punished for wetting the bed, then there is really no motivation except attention.
Also, look into why he is still wetting the bed at 7. Something else is going on, and it may be a problem you are not aware of. Bed wetting is a common sign of being bullied or picked on in school, or other social/psychological problems. Putting the soiled clothes away may be an extention of that. Give him his own hamper next to his bed. Lay down some clear rules and consequences, and be consistent, because that is KEY. Talk to him about what may be going on at school or in his social environment. It's good that you have been so understanding, but children MUST have discipline and consequences, regardless of the cause. Allowing a child to continue inappropriate behavior because you feel bad for him, will enforce a belief system that he is entitled to special treatment, or that certain rules can be broken if he feels he is justified.
Good Luck to you!!!!!
2006-11-13 02:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by art-nerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step daughter (also 7) has a similiar problem. I know he's 7 but if it's a severe wetting issue try maybe using the pull-ups. I did the same thing. After using them and hopefully saving some clean clothes and sheets, then you ween them off of the pull-up. It's working for me but, of course everyone is different. The reason for putting the dirties in the drawers sounds to me like he's embarassed by the fact he's doing this. Maybe using combination techniques like the pull-ups and the washing machine idea from above. I think the washing machine idea was an excellent one and I may try it too! I also tried a "star" system. For everytime they didn't wet the bed/clothes they earned a star. If they got so many stars a week there was a prize given. That worked too. **Not using now because we moved and circumstances don't allow it...which...really sucks!**
2006-11-13 02:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Heather P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't punish him for putting the pee covered things back in the drawer...he's starting to show being embarrassed and punishing him...will only embarass him more!
Maybe get him a special hamper for his room..and sit him down and say...when you have an accident..just put the dirty pants/shirt/pj's in this
I re-read your question...in the begining you said he gets in touble for putting the pee covered clothes BACK in the drawer..and the last sentence says you DON'T punish him...Maybe if the hamper was NEXT to his dresser it wouldn't make him embarrassed...My 5 yr old would leave them on a pile on his floor..and I've had to get him a hamper for his room.
2006-11-13 03:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you've consulted a doctor about this issue and it always helps when the child doesn't receive any food or drink 2 hours before their bedtime - they won't dehydrate and it may help with their control. I would talk to him when no one else is around and tell him that you know he does this but you don't understand why. Ask him what he needs for you to do for him to stop this habit and explain the consequences of his actions in a non-confrontational way. You could also show him how to operate the washing machine so that he can do his own laundry. It must be really hard on him to have this going on - I feel that banning liquids two hours before bedtime may help him with his control.
2006-11-13 02:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bed wetting is such a heart felt subject with me. I was a bed wetter and so was my daughter for years. Thank you so much for not getting on to him because he can't help it. I never once hurt my daughter's feelings because I had been there and done that. She had the cleanest bed in town. Every morning it was my ritual to get up and strip her bed. She was up into her early teens before this stopped. She always had bad allergies and she had to take so much medication that she just didn't wake up. I work at a school and when the kids wet on themselves I tell them it's okay and that I did that when I was young. That always makes them feel better.
As far as him hiding them it is just because he's ashamed of it.Maybe if you put a little garbage bag in his room for him he would put them in it. Please just keep reassuring him that it's okay. Good luck honey and I'll be praying for you.
2006-11-13 04:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a area he is going by way of. Does he act up at college? i come across conversing to infants can help. only have a dialogue, and not precisely ask them direct questions, because of the fact then they might experience issues are occurring. tell him that he's a huge boy, and mutually as a family contributors artwork on techniques on the thank you to provide up the whines. i don't comprehend your loved ones time table or something, or rules so that's a sprint problematic to come back up with techniques. yet easily i think of you should provide him a communique! From the debate, he would desire to experience like a huge boy besides!
2016-10-22 00:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by corl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son used to do that too. I know it might sound like he's too young, but I showed my son how to use the washing machine. He really seemed to like having that grown-up responsibility. He started putting everything in the hamper just so he could do his own wash. I don't know if you feel comfortable with that, but I just wanted to give you a possible idea because it worked for my son when he was that age. Good luck to you (and your son).
2006-11-13 02:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try telling him that there is no shame in wetting the bed but people would make fun of him for smelling of pee,tell him if it would make him feel better he could throw them in the washer-if its empty or put them in the bathroom.he puts them in there to pretend it didnt happen-it sounds like he's ashamed.lucky kid to have you-I was a bed wetter but my parents were alcoholics-none too understanding
2006-11-13 02:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is trying to hide it. Just sit him down when your both on your own and say there is no need just put them in dirty washing.
Buy him a washing basket,let him pick it out and put it in his room.
2006-11-13 02:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a swap...when they give you their old pj's and undies from the night, you may then give them a new pair, u have to hide the undies and pj's in your room. (and just make sure they dont know where u hide them) it works
2006-11-15 13:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋