The last four guys I've been involved with have all let me down and hurt me in the same kind of way: i.e. giving me mixed messages, leading me on, messing me about...How can you tell if a guy is not going to treat you this way? I did talk to them about what they wanted and I took it into consideration but it made no difference. How can you tell if a man won't mess you around?
2006-11-13 02:31:10 · 20 answers · asked by rainbow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't really tell...
I have the opposite problem than you...
I was going to get serious with the woman I loved...
She told me what she wanted out of the relationship...
I did told her, but because the distance... I could not really show it to her...
She didn't believe me, even though... I would marry her (and it's not some trick just to get under her pants)...
I think you might want to look for consistencies... (that's the key)
But again sometime... you may want to take a gamble...
You will never know how great a life could be if you didn't take that leap of faith...
But again... you need to be aware... the very first sign of messing around means messing around...
You need to know this and react quickly and not wait...
I hope that helps...
2006-11-13 02:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy the Cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always tell. But I agree that if you may have a gut instinct telling you something is wrong. If you get mixed messages then pay attention- some guys are too chicken to tell you that they aren't really interested and will just go along with things- especially if they think they will get something physical out of it - but something about the way they behave lets you know that things aren't right.
This doesn't mean you should drive yourself nuts over-analysing everything they say or do, but just pay attention to those little voices when something feels wrong. And don't let things get physical too soon (wait at least a month is the general consensus), so the guys that are just after one thing will have got bored waiting, leaving the serious ones.
Make it clear that you won't put up with being messed around, and act on this if necessary. Don't talk to them about past relationships more than bare minimum.
Don't worry that it has been a recurring theme, because that doesn't mean this trend will continue. The past is the past. Take your time, listen to your instincts, try not to become cynical or give up. All the best! X
2006-11-13 02:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by teary chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you can't tell, if only you could. However if you know a little something about him before hand this could help but not always. If he has a bit of a reputation then there is the possibility that he will mess you about. However if he is a nice guy there is a chance that he might not. Unfortunately in this life nothing is certain, and they is just no way of knowing
2006-11-13 02:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really there is no sure fire way to tell. But you can't go into a friendship/relationship thinking he will mess around on you. You should just trust the person until they give you reason not to trust them.
2006-11-13 02:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think those guys really didn't think that much of you. If they did they would show you more respect.
You'll know when you've found a guy that won't mess you around because he won't make you geel insecure. You'll trust him even when he's in situations that would normally make you feel uncomfortable (e.g. out for a boys night where all his mates are on the pull)
2006-11-13 02:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by merihell75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The loud arrogant ones will prob mess you around,my ex's were really popular at college etc, and well known around my town..they treated me like shite. My current bf is the opposite,he's just right- not arrogant, quiet but not shy!..u can usually tell thou..may take a while!
2006-11-13 02:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by spink20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think most men are afraid of commitment so they go from one girl to another so they don't get too involved,there is no way of really knowing who there cowards are so you just have to be wary of men i've been in the same position six times now i think i'm better off on my own at least i can do what i like when i like and don't have to answer to any one else!
2006-11-13 02:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are drawn to a certain type which keeps leading to this kind of heart break. Try something different than what you are used to. I did, and it worked. Trust your heart and you can't go wrong. If you see red flags waiving then you need to take action to avoid further hurt in your life. Good luck...
2006-11-13 02:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by shellybear0925 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's a pretty good way to weed out the messers;
-Is he abnormally ugly and eternally grateful of your company?
-Is he poor and can't afford to buy other girls drinks?
-Do you give ridiculously good head?
-Did you know him before you started going with him? Friends?
-Do you have females friends that are more attractive than you?
-Which of you does more texting (each other)?
Answers on a Postcard.
2006-11-13 02:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well babe im still trying work that one out for myself and my fiancee who i split up with in august was my friend for 5 years never thought he'd mess me about but still did.x it seems the nice girls get walked all over, but it works both ways cos some men get it too. if you work it out let me know.x good luck.x
2006-11-13 02:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by angelalways 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋