how do you know when your ready to get married?

Question

ive been chatting to a girl that i met on th einternet for about 3 years..we have met up only once...(we live about 400 miles away from each other) but we seem to really get on well and have so much in common...we have been speaking more about marrige..but how will i know if im ready? im 26 shes 27

Answer 1

You need to spend some more time in person with her. Do you speak on the phone or just email? If you only email it is hard to know for sure if you are compatible. Everything you type can be censored before the other person sees it. Talk on the phone. See if you can plan a week or so to spend together. Is she willing to move to where you live, or will you move to her location? If you were ready to get married you wouldn't be asking this question so I would take some time before I jumped into it.

I met my husband online. We talked online and on the phone for six weeks then he came to see me. We lived 3000 miles apart and the first time we met he asked me marry him. We've been married 6 years now, have four kids and are very happy. So it is possible for this to work, just don't rush into it if you aren't sure. Good luck!

Answer 2

Wait a sec. partner. While it's great that you have found someone so special to you, there are a few things you might want to consider before taking the dive into marriage.

First, you said you have only met once. It is good that you felt great when you did meet that time, it is usually good to meet a few more times so you can be aware of each others habits. Small habits tend to be the maker or breaker of marriages.

Second, there is usually a reason that people feel very compatable talking to one another online, it is because they can talk to each other whenever they feel like it. You have the liberty so see or not to see each other at anytime. There is 400 miles between you! Ask yourself how do you think my feelings could change if she was living with me and I could never get away from her? It's not going to be something you can get away from...ever. Are you sure you want that and can handle it?

In the end, my recomendation is to try to move closer to one another to engage in more real life dating together (beyond a webcam and microphone) and if that works well, then by all means, go for it! At the minimum, try to go on a vacation with her or something. I really hope everything works out well for the both of you!

Answer 3

She will let you know when you are ready. Women have a way of doing that to men.

As for your situation, in American society we normally would have far more personal contact than you have before marriage comes into play. I strongly suggest one of you move so the two of you can be in more personal contact with each other. If you fall in love with an on line chatter, that love may not ever go beyond the computer. You really should be dating instead of just on line lovers before marriage is even considered.

Your ages are irrelevant as you are both adults. Get together first before you get hitched.

Answer 4

First, if you have to ask strangers on the internet, you're not ready to get married.

Second, you've met this woman ONCE in person and you're thinking about marriage? Did you sniff glue as a child.

Third, why ar eyou asking this question on the internet? Don't you have any friends in the real world? I suggest you get a few more and ask them so they can give you the kick in the head you so desparately need.

Answer 5

First, you need to spend tons more time together IN REALITY than once! That sounds like a recipe for disaster. Obviously, if you were to marry, one of you would have to move to the other's location. Why don't you do that now, and if you don't want to live together, you could get spearate apartments. Then date for real. If it works out, great! If not, you haven't made any legal committments.

Answer 6

you can never tell if you are ready or not, i mean there is no check list where you can see if you have already reached certain goals or personal tests you passed that would make you seem ready. basically, it's your gut instincts that will tell you that you are indeed ready. some people think that if they already reached a certain age, acquired some assets, reached certain goals in life and they think they are ready. some people think that they are ready simply by finding that one person that makes them feel complete, happy, contented or all of the above. in all honesty, no one can really tell, what matters is if you can picture yourself growing old with that person. and if you can picture yourself being happy with that person no matter all the imperfection, flaws or bad times that you two will need to overcome in the future. hmmm, just give it a shot, see where you two can take your relationship. and trust your self. goodluck in your relationship and godbless!

Answer 7

It is one thing to chat with someone online another to be with them in person. It is a totally different story. Online they can hide their 'bad' habits and be who they want to be without you every knowing. You need to, if your deriously thinking about doing anything, meet up with her more often and see how you feel with her when you guys meet up. Sometimes even if you seem to have tons of things in common the spark is not there in person to person contact. So for both men and woman you have to be careful, because online talking is not reality talking. Online talking means you can say you are this taht and the other and when you meet up with this person most of it is not tru and someone always ends up getting hurt. But this is ur decision if you feel comfortable enough to marry her, then that is your choice no one elses.

Answer 8

take a vacation together.. spend some good quality time together in a 24/7 environment.. you really need to spend time together to see if this is really going to work.

it's one thing to have chatted and shared your thoughs. and it's great if it seems you both want the same things in life. but don't rush into marriage without spending time together.. you really need to see someone at their best and at their worst.. and then you can decide if you really want to be with that person forever..

Answer 9

You need to log more hours of real life time with her before you start planning the wedding. Internet and phone-only relationships are not real. There is no substitute for face-to-face contact.

Answer 10

move in with her and live together for a year first.that way you both can see what each other is like in real life.my ex and me never lived together,and when we lived together for awhile,we found out we were 2 different people.a divorce can ruin you too.it cost me alot of money and it ruined my credit too