Why is it that whoever you are with, they can never except you for who you are and they bulldoze your brain with their insecurities to the point of thinking you are the mad one..... How is it that I have gone from being ultra confident, lively, full of zest, smiles to this paranoid, doubting my ability, lack of confidence wreck.... What can I do to make me into the person I was? To rebuild my confidence, and self esteem, to be happy within me? Anyone got any suggestions to how to feel good within you again?
2006-11-13 02:14:36 · 17 answers · asked by Girl of Spirit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave that knob
2006-11-13 02:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by toietmoi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you have to realize is that you have allowed someone to make you like this.
Firstly get rid of the ******** who has made you feel like this.
Secondly take a bit of time away from relationships and work on yourself. You need to become independant again and you willl never do that from within a relationship you will just slip into a new rwlationship and carry on from where you finished up in this one. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are. Remember though that only you can change it. It will take hard work and time.
Good luck
2006-11-13 02:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by sleekwalrus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the key to this one is in your words "not allowed to be".... Says who?
You don't owe it to anybody to change - they might not like you if you don't, but then so what? Surely you want to be with people who like you because you are you, not because they want to mould you into somebody else.
The best thing is to make a clean break, start again, just take time to be yourself and have some fun. Ditch the moron who has made you feel this way - people who do this are usually self loathing because they are pretty damned loathesome.
Spend some time with friends/ family who do appreciate you and who will sing your praises a bit. You will soon be back to your old self and wondering what you were thinking going out with someone like that!
2006-11-13 02:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump this guy. he's obviously the problem here.. for whatever reason, he saw your confidence as a threat. he wants to bring you down and make you vulnurable... or maybe he is unhappy and wants to make others unhappy.
rid yourself of this guy and start to rebuild your life. focus on people that you enjoy spending time with. focus on activities that you enjoy.. focus on tasks and goals that are achievable.. experience some happiness and success and you'll be back to your old confident self really soon!
2006-11-13 02:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy should ever make you feel that way. You need to focus more on what you want than what he wants, and you'll soon feel like yourself again. Don't even think about what he might think of this new development. Just do it. If nothing changes, GET THE HELL OUT.
2006-11-13 04:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the type of man that you are going after that is doing this to you. You need to get back on your own again and start all over again. Pick better and you will find that you are all right. You sound like someone that is a lot of fun to be with.
2006-11-13 02:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take responsibility for letting someone else overshadow the true you. if you are to be true to yourself and your children do not allow this person to debase you. you must take the reins of your life back. you have not only yourself but your children to show the positive side of life to. negativeness can only overcome positiveness when it is allowed to occur.
take back your life and live as the real you that you still are. cut away the lining forming around you before it solidifies and you can't. best wishes on gaining yourself again!!!
2006-11-13 03:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by mary s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my experience, when you start losing all of those good traits due to being w/someone...it's best to let that person go if they're trying to change you into someone you dont want to be, and especially if youre not happy w/it.
2006-11-13 02:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you are with the wrong person. Separate from this person right now, this very minute, and start doing things that you used to do. The real you will come back.
2006-11-13 02:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm..
first of all, leave the person that makes you feel so horrible! you shouldn`t have to be with someone who doesn`t like you for you!.. if he wants to turn you to another person, then he´s not in love with YOU but just an idea...
you gotta understand that the way you are is the best way you can be!.. if your true to yourself then belive me.. you´ll be so much better.. =)
good luck!!
2006-11-13 02:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by romigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a guy that is making you feel htis way then you need to get out. If yu can't be yourself around your partner then you dont need to with them. yu nedd to be someone you can be confident around and someone who will make you feel loved and will love you for you. Dont settle for less than you deserve.
2006-11-13 02:20:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋