I don't get in troubles, get good grades and have a kinda good relatioinship w/ my parents. I talk to them and never lie. But saturday I ended up giving in to per pressure, joined a crowd my parents don 't ike that much and went on a motorcylcke ride w/ a 15 yo boy. Murphy law, we had a small accident. Nothing seriuos, I just hurt my knee a bit. My dad saw, asked what had happened,. I was so ashamed that I said I had slipped on a stair. He said Oh hun, washed my wound, put a medicine on it. I felt terribly bad cause I was lying, and even worse cause dad gave me a kiss and said Now it won't hurt any more. Well, apparently everthing is OK, but my conscience hurts really bad. My parents are nice, trust me, dad belived me though my shirt was torn, and I wasn't enough honest to admit I had messed up. I can't sleep, but Im kinda ashamed. Should I tell them the truth and apologize? I'm afraid they do'nt trust me any more. Should I be punished?
2006-11-13 02:13:49 · 17 answers · asked by Angela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you continue to lie to them and they find out later what you did, and that you lied, they will most definately not trust you again.
But if you come forward now and admit it, you might get in a little bit of trouble, but they will still trust you and will respect that you fessed up. I think this is the best option for you.
2006-11-13 02:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound to be a very sweet young lady and you will do the right thing. Your parents do not expect you to be perfect, we all know our children will make mistakes. Let your conscience guide you. You need to go to your parents and say Mom Dad the other day when I said I slipped on a stair, I was not telling the truth and I am ashamed of myself for not telling the truth. This is what I did, I am very sorry. Remember your parents are going to think highly of you for admitting the lie telling the truth. This shows your inner being honey. Why would they not trust you anymore? Your upbringing will shine through because you guided yourself and spoke the truth. Go to your parents and free your mind
2006-11-13 10:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a wonderful girl, and I wish there were many more just like you ! Do you know how rare it is to have someone with such a sensitive conscience? I'll tell you, Honey, if you don't tell them, your conscience will become hardened and more and more accustomed to lying to the point where it doesn't bother you anymore, and that's not what you want, or we wouldn't be having this talk. Yes, it will take courage on you part to admit what you did to your parents, but you will have learned a valuable lesson; you'll once again be able to sleep at night, and your parents WILL forgive you! They love you, Honey...your conscience is God's way of leading you in the right direction.....please , don't ignore Him! God bless you! XX
2006-11-13 10:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angela, I really hope your remorse is due to conscience rather than the fact you got in accident and "sorta got caught" in a lie.
Either way, what you have to do now is continue being the smart mature faithful daughter. What punishment do you deserve to make up for this???? Decide this first.
After you have decided what punishment you deserve, you need to:
1. Tell your parents that you love them, you know they love you, that you love that they trust you, but that you betrayed their trust, and are deeply sorry. AND that you want to make up for it.
2. Then let your parents talk.
3. They will cry, gnash, whatever upset parents do.
4. Then tell them you realize how severe and important trust is, and that you realize how serious your breach of trust is. Then offer the punishment you have decided is appropriate.
You could get a response either better or more severe, but this is your test of character and whether you are really sorry.
Accept their decision. Good Luck
2006-11-13 10:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your conscience. You know you will feel better when the truth is exposed. By you volunteering the truth to your Dad, he will be a little upset, but he will be very proud that you chose to tell the truth and you will sleep better. There may be some punishment, but that will always come with doing the wrong thing. He will ask you to avoid this new "crowd," so you will have a decision to make. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-13 10:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I hate to say this but maybe you were saved from something worse happening. First, you are supposed to wear a helmet when you go on a motorcycle and you can get serioulsy injured. If you went with someone with such a flagrant disregard for safety a lot worse could have happened. Maybe he wanted something else from you and was taking you to a place to make you give it to him. Perhaps G-d saved you and your honor from much worse.
If these boys approach you again tell them that you are not interested in them and to stay away or you will call the police. Even respectable 15 year old boys are controlled by their urges but know what the bounds of acceptable behavior is towards a young teen. These boys sound like they know no boundaries of respectable behavior and quite frankly may have wanted you for the pleasure your body could give them.
NEVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT AGAIN.
2006-11-13 10:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say talk to your parents and tell them the truth. You may get grounded but that's OK. We all have to learn that there are consequences to our actions. That whenever we make a mistake, it is always better to own up to it and "take your medicine". I also have always found that it is usually never as bad as we think it's going to be.
Explain to your parents what you did, talk to them about the lesson(s) you learned, maybe talk to them about why you gave into peer pressure. Ask them about any time that they may have made a similar mistake.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 10:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ypu should tell him , they will be mad at first but thenthey will have more respect for you after for telling the truth! and once you start then it gets easier and you do not want to continu doing this do you, you feel horrible, it is not worth it,It isn't really that bad,but be sure that you tell them exactly what you have said in here, that you don't want to lie to them and that you were scared! they will understand they did it too. Good Luck and do what your mind will be put at ease by doing! that id the only way you will be happy!
2006-11-13 10:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by junebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing.....tell them the truth. Tell them that it hurt you this much to lie to them and you just couldn't do it. It takes a stronger person to admit their mistakes than to suffer through a lie. Lies are never worth it. Your parents will love you and respect your courage to be honest about what you did wrong. it shows charecter. Don't worry about the punnishment. Whatever they will give you won't be as bad as your feelings of guilt.
2006-11-13 10:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should not be punished and yes you should confess. Print out what you just wrote and show it to them.
If you were my daughter, you would get a big hug and forgiveness. Nobody's perfect and there are a lot of kids your age doing a whole lot worse than what you did.
Count it as a valuable lesson and make better choices in the future.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 10:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋