Last October I met this guy at my best friends house (my friend's boyfriend at the time cousin). He lives in Michigan, I live in Alabama. However, we hit it off great but he had to leave the next day. We e-mailed each other every so often but left it at that because we stay so far away from each other. About two week ago, he e-mailed me and told me he was sorry for not keeping in contact and gave me his number to call him. I called him yesterday and we talked for hours catching up. He said that he would try to make it down here soon to come and visit so we could get reacquanted. He wants me to go back with him, but I'm not so sure about that. I just got out of a bad relationship and am not about to hop into another one. Should we just remain friends and leave it at that?
2006-11-13 02:12:58 · 12 answers · asked by divalicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it slow. It doesn't sound like you know this guy very well yet. Visit with him when he comes but don't go back with him yet. If you still hit it off I would continue to email and talk to him on the phone for a while until you know him a little better. It may seem like you know him but time is the best way to tell if he is good boyfriend material. Just enjoy getting to know him and then decide. Don't let your emotions get you into a relationship before you are sure.
2006-11-13 02:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by CamKeeTai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many young girls make life changing, really stupid decisions because of some guy. I assume you had a life and a future planned before Mr. Michigan entered your line of sight.
Forget this noise. I'm sure there are plenty of good men in Alabama. Long distance relationships suck. If you think he isn't going to sleep around on you, honey your kidding yourself. Get out before it has a chance to break your heart.
2006-11-13 10:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go with your gut feeling of him. If you are feeling this man emotionally then do the long distance thing. Plan to visit each other every month or less. After a while you will know whether it is worth moving to MI or not. He should understand that you need to move slower. Hope all works out great!
2006-11-13 10:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Heather C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an open mind. You never know when "Mr. Right" will come along. If you see him and get that "warm fuzzy" feeling, see where it leads. And is there any reason why you shouldn't go to Michigan? Can you afford the move? If so, go for it. But live on your own while you determine if this is right or not. Good luck!
2006-11-13 10:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, that's a tough one. Basically I would just say go with your gut instinct on this one. It's a big decision, and if it feels weird, maybe just leave it for the time being. Spend some more time getting to know each other and go from there. But if it feels right, then go for it. Yes you might get hurt again, but you will never know until you try right.
Best of Luck!
2006-11-13 10:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just remain friends if your ready to get into a relationship with another man, but before you lead him on, let him know that you just want to stay friends, and maybe in the future there might be something, but not at this moment!
2006-11-13 10:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spent one day together and then had an off-and-on long distance relationship. Going to visit with him does not mean that you two are going to get into a relationship...unless you have promised him certain things. But visiting could help you decide if it is more than just a lingering infatuation.
2006-11-13 10:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him a little better. I wouldn't leave everything you have and move to Michigan. Give it time, take some road trips. But don't pack up and move because if it turns out not to work out then you would have to pack up and move back...to much work just for a guy! Hope it works out though!
-Sara Lynn
2006-11-13 10:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sara K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should talk to him about it get to know him a little bit better, and then if u really love him you should go with him
Dont leave if you are not sure, i have to find out haw u feel i know its hard beeing far away but you shouldn't pick up and leave for a guy u really dot know if u want to be with
2006-11-13 10:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by sofitaps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take it slow go visit for a few weekends and see how things are then after that re-evaluate, but don't start making life-changing plans just yet.
And don't give up on love yet.
2006-11-13 10:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by eric_the_red_101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋