she says every time she calls he says he is to busy to talk. and she emailed me this:
ok so how do i tell my boyfriend to make more time for me because what is more important than me i already said this to him once so if i say it again its bitching and i dont do that and i dont want to not call anymore because thats playing games and i dont do that either what do i do I am supposed to be numero uno priority and puffy you know this.....
can anyone help her????
2006-11-13 02:09:09 · 5 answers · asked by Dustin S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a jerk. When my bf was in Afghanistan, I kept my cell phone in my pocket at work. I am a waitress, I could have gotten into trouble for that, but it was VERY important to me that I could be there for him.
2006-11-13 02:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only she can help herself. She's got to quit telling him the same thing over and over again, it's just going to drive him nuts. Yes, when you are in a realtionship, you are supposed to be very in to eachother, however, some people don't get this concept and don't understand it, her boyfriend might be one of those people. If she's told him several times she needs more time from him and he's not willing to give it, then he's subconsiously sending her a message, it is "you're not that important to me". She needs to evaluate her relationship with him and figure out if this is the way she wants to be treated, or if she wants someone who will treat her better. The best thing she can do is this, tell her to meet with her boyfriend, not call him, face to face issues here. Let him know in a calm voice that she doesn't appreciate the way he's been disregarding her feelings. Also let him know that she is going to take some time to do her own thing, and he's welcome to call when he has the time. Then she needs to leave him alone for a good week, don't call him, don't pester him, give him the chance to show he does have the time for her, or give him the chance to show his real feelings. If he does not contact her for several days, then she needs to find someone who will appreciate her for who she is instead of using her as a convinient object when he decides he has the time. Hope this helps, good luck to her.
2006-11-13 02:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations Dustin on being a good friend. And my deepest thanks for the job you all are doing it Iraq. God Bless and Be Safe.
Unfortunately, it sounds like bf has other interests than his gf. I really think he's moved on, or at least found temporary solace with someone else.
The best you can do is continue to be supportive and try to distract her attention away from busy bf.
Good Luck
2006-11-13 02:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she can't make him talk to her, but it is obvious that he has another priority, she may have to change her venue. And not make him her priority. Tell her to stop calling him. he knows how to reach her, when he does have time to talk. Where she is, she really does not need this. It may be time for her to think, long and hard about this relationship. If he can't be their for her, while she is away serving her country, them she may never be able to count on him! Tell her we thank her!
2006-11-13 02:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave him for awhile. If he love her, he will call her later on.
2006-11-13 02:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋