okay i need some help with the ladies...i realise i have huge anger issues that my therapist cant explain...?

Question

is there any techniques that can help this (avoid giving me suggestions of medicines...i am a pagan and it does not go well with my religion)

Answer 1

It is odd how so many people take a purely natural human state, like anger and want to make it an illness!

Ignore those arguments about when you need a bandaid etc....

You aren't sick. You are angry. Anger is a huge emotion. It has many root causes but the main one is that you are human. Sometimes a persistent anger in a particular setting, say around women, has a precursor that is now long forgotten. Don't worry about analysing yourself to death, you say you've been to a counsellor and they can't identify the cause of the anger so don't worry about the cause. From here and now apply this theory:

It is only an emotion. No one ever died from having an emotion. It is the actions that follow the emotions that do harm. Manage your actions. Manage your words. And just accept that you have a bucketfull of anger with untraceable roots that you are allowed to have. You are also allowed to take the anger and turn it into something useful. When I am angry, and a lot of my anger is grounded in things long forgotten, I take that anger and go and do a task that I have been putting off doing, like cleaning or organising a room or a shed etc. I let the energy that goes with the anger drive me to achieve something useful then I accept that energy and the anger and thank my lucky stars that I have such anger.

Answer 2

Well, first off, when you start to feel yourself getting angry, stop what you're doing. Call a time-out, ground and center. Do your best to rein in the anger before it gets out of control.

Secondly, as has been suggested, do some analysis to figure out what you're angry at. Anger normally comes from some sort of frustration, some sense that things are not what you want them to be. Explore that - figure out what it is that isn't right, what it would take to get it right... and *why* you think things should be that way. Each "why" question should be answered as simply as possible - and then follow the trail of "why" as far as you can. Likely, you'll eventually reach a root cause - and from there, you can start to address it.

Answer 3

Let me ask you this, if you were bleeding would you not use a bandaid? If you had diabetes, would you not take medication for it because you're a pagan? That just doesn't make sense does it? Get some medication to regulate your problem; it's not something you can control because it is chemical, or in your brain. It is a "disorder" and medications that help you cope are certainly allowed to help you be a better person. Do something before you hurt someone. Blessed be.

Answer 4

So you're a pagan who abuses his girlfriend[s] and you're refusing to continue with therapy or use prescription medication because it "does not go well" with your religion? Sir, suicide is selfish, and it is the virtue of selfishness that is most often ignored in today's society. I encourage all those contemplating suicide to do it. It's like buying a ticket to the greatest adventure of your (after) life. The Church merely tells individuals not to leave when we feel like leaving because they're an authoritative body; they seek control and refuse to allow individuals to seek their own freedom because freedom is a threat to the authoritarian's foundation. In essence we are living in vain because of authoritative bodies which tell us to be unselfish, altruistic, to live to support them, while we must live (and thusly die) for ourselves. If one wishes to leave now, let them leave now. Quit crying and be happy for them. If you want to leave now, do it, just make sure it works.

Answer 5

You have to ask yourself what are you REALLY angry at. Not because someone cut you of in traffic or whatever you need to 100% truthful only when you have discovered the root of the problem will it be able to be fixed.

If you need someone to talk to email me it may help not to se or know the person you are talking to