If a man is married and his wife is not having sex w/him- is it ok for him to masturbate to internet porn.?

Question

I personally think it is better that a guy masturbates to porn than
cheat. If a guy masturbates, he is not going to be looking at
the wall street journal. The time that a man may not be getting
along with his wife may be short term but the guy does not know
how long.My wife would make excuses and dress unsexy
so I would not be turned on- sweatshirt and old jeans- when
she KNOWS that I am turned on more when she dressses
more sexy and she never had a problem before and
I think she is just making an excuse not to have sex-
she is very dominating and controlling and
if I do not do everything she wants, she gets
angry and does not want to have sex.

Answer 1

No, I would lay right next to her and masturbate, you should all so tell her that withholding sex is a form of emotional abuse. And this can lead to the other partner having an extra material affair. Mature people have communication and talk things out, not have tantrums and withhold sex. Sorry for you luck! Good luck and God bless. And when she catches you with the porn the issue is going to get larger and you may end up celibate. It really sounds as though she may be having an affair. Hire a detective and have her followed.

Answer 2

The problem is not whether you masturbate but why. What has happened between you an d you wife to make her chance her view of sex with you ? Is she cheating. Is it something physical ? Do you abuse her in any way, even verbally ? Do you prefer masturbation over sex with her ? Have you made her aware or cause her to at least think that it is easier and quicker for you to masturbate than to have to persuade her to have sex with you ? Do you even try to persuade her enough ? Have you stopped the foreplay and romance you used to perform to persuade her to have sex with you or do you just cut to the chase and only want quick sex ? Do either of you make the time for romance and sex any more or has your life changed in any hectic way ? New job, longer hours at work ? New hobbies ? Think this trough. Obviously you once had sex together and it must have been good for you two to have stayed together. Go back to the way it used to be. Did one of you gain weight or otherwise become less attractive to the other ? Take a good look in the mirror and be honest here. Something has changed.Find it and correct it. Then get off the Internet and go to it.

Answer 3

First of all, "sex" isn't something that committed adults in a loving and healthy relationship use as a "weapon". When two people love and respect each other they "communicate" when something is wrong.

As far as "masturbating", it's a personal choice. Looking "outside" the relationship for any reason is always wrong and never solves any problems.

Your wife obviously has "issues" if she is "dominating" and feels a need to "control" everything "or else". She needs to get some help with that or else your relationship is never going to be the "healthy and loving" one you deserve!

Best of luck.

Answer 4

No it is not wrong for a married man to masturbate, even if it is to porn (like you said it is better to masturbate to porn than to go out and cheat on her)

Ok, here is what I think some women get turned off when they think that all there guy wants is sex (does that make sense??) try this.. do something romantic for her, make her a candle light dinner, then wash the dishes and when you are all done tell her I hoped you liekd it sweetheart and give her a kiss on the forhead. (Watch she will be like wowo he did this for no reason,.... not even for sex and then she will be then one to come to you for sex) also another thing it is hard for a women to get turned on after having a stressful day and specially when she is exausted so try to help her out and maybe take a little bit longer to turn her on (try not jsut to hump her and finish you know)... also when we are tired and exausted yes we tend to dress not sexy so we feel not sexy and this make us not wnat to have sex.. so maybe if yo ufind her sexy and her worst it will be another boost...

these are just some thoughts..sorry if i went over board..

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good luck

Answer 5

I think you should talk to your wife ask her what's wrong.There is an old Chinese saying:

Man is fire, woman is water. The man's fire brings the woman's water to boiling. in order to feel desire.


"Why don't you want to make love with me?" is a question that kills all desire. Say instead: "You are so beautiful, I cannot resist you!"

If she is stressed and thinks of problems, sex will not work. She needs to get in the right mood. Be helpful and give her a lot of care and appreciation
Start by whispering sweet words in her ear and fondling her all over her body, but not in the genital area

Answer 6

Masturbating to porn is absolutly better than cheating on your wife. If she is not in the mood then she's not in the mood there is nothing you can do about that. Try doing what she ask of you and making her happy and maybe you will get more sex.

Answer 7

I see nothing wrong with self gratification. Alot of people may tell you that it is wrong but i do not think that it is. Be careful that you do not get hooked on it though. Your wife is a possessive person and really mean. I think the two of you need counseling though. You have some issues that you should deal with seriously.

Answer 8

Of course it's ok. If she is sexually starving him, then he should be able to do wahtever he wants, outside of cheating on her. And the same goes for her if he is not giving it up, but when have you ever heard of a man turning it down? LOL

Answer 9

It sounds like you two aren't compatible. but as far as the porn thing goes. If you have to do it all the time then it is a problem. Its not bad to sometimes do it. Just don't let it rule you.

Answer 10

It sounds like you do not have a healthy marriage. My advice is to get out. Simple as that because evenutally porn will not be enough and you don't want to go that route.