Ok I have asked this question before although not many came with thorough an informative answers that would really help me, and I'm really trying to seek help with this.
I always like to be alone, without people around me, just sittting in front of the computer. Everytime my parents and my brother go out, I don't like going with them at all, in fact I barely go with them. Something else I have a problem with is that I don't really talk to people outside of the family, I'm awlays pretty shy and just look at the ground so that no one can see my face, with a cap on top to cover myself. In school everyone calls me a ghost because they don't even know I'm there and I don't talk to them either, I don't want to either, because all they talk about is soccer and bad stuff, and I'm not interested. Teachers always look at me and sorta see the face of mine which says: Help Me!
2006-11-13 01:30:09 · 5 answers · asked by No Name 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's not that I am overweight or anything so that they could hate me, and I'm also not mean looking or anything so that they would act like that around me. Even when I speak they dont even care, and they ask me why im so quiet when i do talk but no one hears. Sometimes I wish I could shout out these words to them: "I'm so sick of speaking words that no one understands, I can hear you in a whisper but you can't even hear me screaming!"
Im not gothic or Emo to go into depression and all that if you think so...im a normal person just like any other, that knows an awful lot more for the age of 14 and all I want is a sign of my prescence, thats all I need. thats all I want.
2006-11-13 01:34:00 · update #1
If you want to change only you can do it.
Get active into something with a purpose. Where your input will count.
If you want to be seen and heard then take action. Be brave and jump feet first into something. There are great things you can volunteer for and help other people. It will give you the self esteem you need.
I hope you have not heard this before. But if so, just try it. It wont work if you never try.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-11-13 01:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Junior and High school are really difficult times in everyones life and if you're 'different' that makes it even harder. Do you go to a small school or is it a larger school. You're feelings are completely normal and you should consider talking to a therapist they're not just for crazy people. You want some friends that think the same way you do and being advanced for your age it's hard to find them. I don't have much advice to offer you in way of coming out of your shell. I didn't have many friends at my school, mine lived in a town thirty minutes away that thought on the same level as I did. Try taking off the cap and giving some of the kids a chance. They might not be on the same level as you but it's nice to have a few friends that vary. :) If they ask you why you're so quiet tell them you're just a quiet person and don't like crowds. Or you're a private kind of person. It's hard to hang around crouds when you don't like a lot of people try approaching somebody one on one. What are some of your interests? Is there something you could talk to your peers about that you like?
I hope you find some peace. A therapist would help a lot better than any of us. Sometimes a therapist is just a person to talk to and it really helps to get that stuf off your chest. They can make your life a lot easier if you give them a chance.
2006-11-13 09:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Brandie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I hear you. I hear you.
It is up to you to make a difference. When you say you want to be alone, and not go out at all, this is a sign of social phobia. I think it can also mean that you are very insecure about yourself, and believe that others opinions matter, not yours.
You can begin by starting to smile. Pretend there is a device on your head that is holding your head up, and will not let your head look toward the ground. This means you must look people in the eye, you must smile at them! and look them in the eye!
I was mistaken in high school for being stuck up. I was not stuck up, I was very shy, and did not think anyone liked me. It may sound kind of weird, but I have this thought that people may be giving you a hard time cuz you are not able to acknowledge them. If they knew you were approachable, they would not give you such a hard time.
I feel for you. I am sorry this is happening to you. No drugs will help you out of this one. You have to hold your head up high, smile smile smile and let people know that you are a nice person and want to be part of their high school lives.
And if they do not respond to you, that is their problem. Move on. And have the courage to keep smiling and become more confident. Once people see you are more confident, you may look like you are more approachable. If you ever need to talk, you can email me. I know where you are coming from. I am 34 years old, and what happened to me in high school still bothers me. In fact, my brother is friends with one of the guys who tormented me. I still get nervous if he is around. But, what I and YOU have to realize is that people who do not accept you has nothing to do with the way you really are. You are a decent person, and if someone throws stones at you, they are the ones with the problems, not you...
2006-11-13 10:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going through a phase. To be honest, it sounds like you need sex. If not ready, then do it yourself.
Or if that's not for you at all, try reading some self-improvement books at the bookstore... don't buy em, just go there, get some coffee and read a little out of 5-10 books & read cosmopolitan magazine too!
2006-11-13 10:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Serious answer: see a therapist. Your family's health insurance should cover 20 visits.
2006-11-13 09:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋