can some one help please??

Question

A relative of mine just found out that her grandfather has sexually touched her daughter ,she also said he done it to her growing up she will not turn him in to the law we have talked to a friend who is with the law and he says she will have to do this does any one know how we could turn this situation in with out her knowing it was our family we feel this situation needs taking care of and there has to be smothing done to stop this man before he hurts another child!!

Answer 1

an anonymous complaint to child protective services

Answer 2

there is an annonymous hotline for child welfare, however, when you report someone to them, you run the risk of the daughter being taken away from the mother until she's proven innocent. You're in a tough situation, first thing I would do is talk to the little girl, if she's old enough to understand that people shouldn't be touching her private parts, then teach her it's wrong, and that she should scream and run away or tell the police. Again, if she's old enough, she might report the abuse to the authorities or her teacher if she's in school. This way it's being taken care of and you did the right thing by teaching her it's not ok for someone to touch her in that way. It's honestly something her mother should have taught her! This might cause some upset people, however, as a mother, I don't care who it was, family member, friend, stranger, if anyone touched my child in a sexual way I would go after them with a bat, then call the authorities to clean up the mess!!! I have seen too many children torn apart by molestation as a young child. Whatever you do, protect that child as well as you can! If I were in your shoes, I would talk to the mother of that child, and remind her of her responsibility to PROTECT her child. If she did nothing about it and took the child over to that persons house again, I would report her, because she is not thinking of the mental and physical welfare of her child. If the police do nothing because there's no "proof", then child services will investigate the matter! I beg you to protect that child!

Answer 3

There is nothing worse you can do to the victim than taking this to the open leting everybody know what happened to her. As long as it's a secret she'll be able to cope better. I think you should confront him with 2 family members or more maybe he'll go back to his senses. And for God's sake don't ever leave the girl alone with him. Pure and simple it is know you're responsibility to protect her by giving him zero opportunity at her.

Answer 4

You have to think of what's more important, your friendship or that and other children's safety. What if it was your child he touched would that even be an issue. It doesn't matter whose child it was, it was an innocent child who couldn't fight back.
Another thing to do is call the school the little one belongs to or childcare and report it to them and they will handle the rest without involving you, they don't the parents where they get their source and the parents will automatically think that the girl said something to them. Good luck!

Answer 5

This woman is not being a good mother. She needs to protect her daughter and other children from this man and sitting by doing nothing makes her just as guilty.

Let her know that she's being an accomplice by not coming forward to stop him from hurting other children.

Answer 6

You're letting your anonymity outweigh your child's safety. Go ahead and tell. Who cares if they know it was you? Your child's safety is much more important.

Answer 7

Do as David B suggests..and do it TODAY

Answer 8

tell the authority

Answer 9

you need to do it no matter who gets hurt.if you don't any thing that happens next is your fault.