how do you get yourself out of a mental "funk" of sorts?

Question

I know some people are going to say "Get Right with God"... I am very spiritual... so I'm ok there.
Some will say "Get on medication". I'm on an antidepressant.
Some will say "God helps those who help themselves"... I need a job first, I've put out 200+ resumes and applications since June and no job, not even at Walmart! (I have two college degrees too) so if I had a job, I could help myself a lot easier.


I'm just wondering how I can get out of this funk I seem to be in. All weekend I felt like I was dying on the inside. I can't explain it. Felt like this for years since I've been married (10 years) but it's getting worse and worse.

I know, tomorrow is another day... but I still feel like I'm in some bad dream and can't wake up. I'm trying to do the "P.M.A" (positive mental attitude) too...

*sigh*

Answer 1

I've been in this situation many times. I think what gets me through is knowing that these times pass and I do get through them. I force myself to just accept that this is the way I'll feel sometimes and then I usually feel less anxious about being depressed. Regarding your job situation, maybe just focus on sending a few applications to places you are really interested in and then, let it go - don't drive yourself crazy wondering if you are going to get a call for an interview. Start on some more applications and refocus again. Eventually a door will open, often when you least expect it. Also, take some community classes in something you are really interested in, like art, music, etc. You never know what that can do for you. Re: your marriage - well, sometimes things improve when you feel better about yourself, sometimes you need to look at marriage counseling and sometimes you need to move on.
Hope this helps and best of luck to you!

Answer 2

I was unemployed and sending out massive quantities of resumes so I know how that is. It's very important not to let yourself fall into a depression for too long. The longer you're in it, the harder it is to get out. You have to do everything you can to keep your spirits up. Here's what helped me: walking in Nature (any exercise helps), eating healthy food (lots of veggies and brown rice, no sugar. Sugar will bring you right down), writing a gratitude list every day (what are you appreciative about? Maybe it's as simple as a warm shower on a cold day or a the sweetness of a beloved pet), write a list every day of the positive aspects of the people around you (even if you can only think of one or two positive aspects at first, that's good. That's a start.). Never never let yourself think that you won't get a job or that your life will always be like this. Have another thought ready and when you think something like "I'll never get a job" quickly replace it with the positive thought. Good luck! This will pass and life will get better.

Answer 3

Exercise or hard physical activity helps. A healthy diet (no sugar) helps. If you don't have a job, and are feeling like crap, why don't you volunteer? It will get you out of the house and mixing with people who really NEED you, and you'll have a distraction from your troubles. You might meet someone who could offer you a job, you never know. But you need to get out there. Feeling like crap can become a bad habit once your thoughts become stuck in patterns.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you are talking about everything but the real problem. When was the last time you went out for a walk on your own? Take some time out and do something, whatever activity it is you like, you don't have to be good at it, just do it! Two things will happen, I promise, one; you will disperse endomorhines that are clogging up your physical state and secondly, without you having to think about it, the real reason for how you are feeling will become clear. Good Luck, I think you already know you just don't want to face it.

Answer 5

Ask yourself why it is that after 200+ applications you still haven't been hired...it's understandable why that would be depressing.

Or it may just be clinical.
Perhaps you need either a more effective anti-depressant or a more effective dosage. It may be the pill isn't enough and there could be another issue(s) that a therapist can help you uncover.