Falling in love but now he is going away,i'm so depressed?

Question

I have had problems with depression since my teen years. I recently started to go out with this great guy,things are perfect and he's wonderful and ever since i been with him i havent been depressed at all. He is a cop and told me he may have to go to Bosnia for a year as part of his job,he is trying to get out of it but it looks doubtful. I have been so down since he told me,now i'm afraid i'm spiralling back down into depression. The thought of not seeing him for so long is eating me up inside.

Answer 1

Well honey,
Nothing good comes easy. However, nothing feels better than support from home, meaning pictures, writing, care packages, and emails (as a former soldier myself) I know how despairing it can be for the both of you to be displaced (as my ex and I were both in the military together and I would have to go different places for long periods of time). If you really love him remain loyal to him and enjoy loving him from a distance as I know it makes the heart grow fonder and men really appreciate that because it sort of solidifies your commitment to them. On the other hand though I would suggest that you work on your financial well being, your spiritual, and even the physical, pick up a hobby and enjoy your girl friends. Good luck! Don't allow yourself to become and remain depressed (I know it's comforting and a coping mechanism however, it can become a downward spiral and that's not healthy either)

Answer 2

Can you take a leave of absence from your job and go with him? That is the only reason I can come up. I did that once. I left a great guy in FL and went back year after year to visit and it was hard each time but it kept us together for 5 years. I never moved back, he never visited me and now we are just friends who rarely talk. But you never know. This could just be a lesson learned. Plus you just meet your one and only when he is gone. Leave that open when you talk with that man. If you just can't live without him, I would go with him because then you may lose him if you don't. Then you can always come home if things don't work out. Plus point: You will get to see the world while traveling with a great guy!

Answer 3

if i was you, i would let him go... (i mean he has to anyways right?)... understand that he's not the only one for you... there are thousands of other hot guys out there for you... go see your dr and get some meds to help you deal with this situation... at least untill you feel confidant that you are better... and if you need someone to talk to, confide in a close friend or go talk to a theripist... that's what they are there for... you've got your whole life ahead... no need to put it on hold for anyone... live it to your fullest and have the best time you could ever dream of having... you only got one life !!! much luck

Answer 4

there are many ways to be in touch with him when hes away.when you both love each other ,distance wont change anything ..Its hard I agree, my husband had to go and live away from me when we just got married but I was trying to be patient .Then I realized "the distance had no meaning when you are in love because he was always in my heart and in my mind".So instead of being depressed ,try to let him know that you will always be there for him and never will stop loving him and that would heal your heart and his heart and makes it easier to handle the current situation.
I hope I could help ..Good luck!

Answer 5

Have u told him how u feel if he knew how u felt he might not go or he might at least thnk about it before he goes ahead and do it . He loves u, and he'll do anything to make u happy, he doesn't want to see u upset. If u told him how u fel he might try and not go.

Answer 6

Maybe you have some emotional problems that you are depressed. Maybe he's trying to get out of the relationship and he's using that story about Bosnia? Maybe he sees something in you that scares him. You need to stop being so dependent on others and start depending on yourself for happiness.