we split up for a some time and he came back telling me how much he loved me and couldn`t live without me..but after that he told me that when we were apart i met someone and he loved her but then they left each other and then came back to me, i`m not sure if he really loves me or he came back to me cuz he found himself alone, i can`t forgive him but at the same time can`t leave him i love him sooooooo much i just can`t, tell me plz what to do
2006-11-13 01:12:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you need some breathing room to absorb why you left him in the first place. And i know that you love him but never take someone back that fast off of a rebound relationship. Regardless of how bad it may hurt to be apart from him you need to let him prove hisself to you and as long as he knows that you're gonna keep taking him back i doubt very seriously that he makes an effort to prove hisself to you period after all why should he because he knows that you're gonna take him back. Let him work for something just don't make it too easy for him to come back into your life.
2006-11-13 01:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you think you can't leave him, you must. It's a waste of both of your time in this relationship to stay in it. Eventually it will come to an end because of trust. You will always wonder why he came back and if his feelings are true and you might not ever trust him again. You can survive without him, time apart will heal. You are never going to have a healthy relationship with this man again there are too many unanswered questions and lack of trust stopping you. Move on, please before you waste more time. The more time you spend in this relationship the more time it will take you to get over it.
2006-11-13 01:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he met someone while you guys weren't together, then it's not cheating. Secondly, you need to find out why they "left each other" and that will tell you what he's doing there. But if the "cheating" occured while you guys were split up, then get over it. If he makes you happy then you shouldn't even have to think about it.
2006-11-13 01:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by grrlstarr79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if the two of you were split up, what you did or what he did in that time period has nothing to do with aether of you. You have to work on what is going on now and that is were it is at. If you keep thinking about what went on while you were out of the picture. You will find your self back there again. Get on with your life.
2006-11-13 01:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that if he did it once, he'll do it again. If you can live with always wondering where he is, who he's with, what he's doing, then stay with him. The only way to move forward is if you can forgive him and trust him completely from now on. I doubt that I would be able to if I was put in that situation, but if you can, then more power to you.
2006-11-13 01:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, he doesn't love you anymore, he just wantto go back to you so he's not alone after hid last love broke up with him.
Forget about him, because if he finds some1 else while dating you he'll let you fall like a sack of potatoes.
Go with someone else, this relationship will never be.
2006-11-13 01:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by cass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you should move on with your life and forget about this dude. He's coming back because he's alone now. You said that you can't forgive him...trust is everything. If its not there then what's the point?
2006-11-13 01:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by KokoCutie272006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is always hard. I never go back to someone who cheats. If he really loved you then he would have tried to work thru y'alls problems instead of being with someone else. But it will be up to you to know if it is worth pursuing.
2006-11-13 01:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by From the "ATL"! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called an obsession because you would never forgive what he done to you. You would never stop thinking if he will do it again and hurt your feelings again.
2006-11-13 01:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by mexicanena5589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater. Leave him, learn from the lesson and find someone who will respect you.
2006-11-13 01:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋