My daughter's maid of honor scheduled a bridal shower and sent invitations before she checked with me. I will be out of the country on the date of the shower. 1) Does the mother usually buy a gift for her daugher for the bridal shower? 2) If I cannot attend, should I send the gift or give it to her after the shower when I return?
2006-11-13 01:11:45 · 10 answers · asked by frazzledmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it was not very courteous of the maid of honor to go ahead with the invites before checking with you.
Yes, I think the mother of the bride will normally give a gift at the shower if you are there. If you are not able to attend then it does not matter when you give it to her.
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I honestly don't know why some British people are importing the 'shower gift' thing, its fine for babies when obviously it spreads the cost of essentials, but isn't giving a wedding gift enough? Also, if I'm friends with the groom does he get a shower too or is it just the girls who get extra presents? Anyway, the mother is obviously being very rude, your gift sounds much more thoughtful, and I'd rather have something homemade any day. Screw the mother, the bride will love it and that's all that matters :)
2016-04-03 03:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually mother's of the Bride do give a gift - I would think you should send a gift for her to open. HOWEVER I have been to bridal showers where family of the bride was not invited only friends or co-workers in that case the Mother does not send a gift.
Congratulations on your daughter's impending wedding!
2006-11-13 02:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by family_matters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 19:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by valderrama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the mother of two bride daughters. I didn't give either a gift at a shower.
We paid 100% of both weddings and I made the wedding gown for my oldest. Our wedding gift to them usually was not 'wrapable' so I just didn't bother giving some little token for show at a shower.
I guess everyone talked about me........lol. Seriously, if the parents are paying and giving a needed gift I see no need for a social presentation of a gift just for a shower.
2006-11-13 02:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mrs. Frazzled Mom, I would suggest that you give your daughter a gift for her shower. Send by a trusted friend or family member to make sure it gets there. You would be there in spirit, and a gift would make it all the more sweeter.
Maid of honor goofed, Mothers should be included in the shower, but I am glad you aren't making a scene. Weddings have enough stress and strain on everyone without causing anymore.
Congratulations, my daughter got married at the end of May. Be sure and check up on some rest, because the couple weeks before the actual wedding will be hectic. Prop those feet up, because believe me, any thing can happen. I wish your daughter the most beautiful wedding and years and years of happiness.
God bless us all......
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2006-11-13 10:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically the showers are arranged so that the bride and her mother can attend. It was rather rude of the MOH to plan a shower knowing you can't attend.
The mother of the bride is not obligated to bring anything to the shower besides herself. It is understood that she is being invited as a matter of respect for the bride. Just as the Mother of the Groom should be. No gifts should be expected of them. Mostly because they are usually paying for a portion of the wedding itself, and also because the MOB and MOG could be attending many showers for the bride and it is simply rude to expect them to shell out several presents. I had 5 showers all together and my Mother and my MIL was invited to each one (simply out of respect, my MIL was invited to represent my husband's side of the family and the showers were typically the first time she was able to meet much of my extended family before the wedding) By having her invited to each shower I in no way expected her to bring a gift. To me, her presence was gift enough.
2006-11-13 02:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Rainy Days and Mondays 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always seen the mother of the bride give the bride a gift at the shower, and it's usually the most elaborate gift. Even if the mother of the bride paid for the shower, she still gives a gift. At least, that's how I've always seen it done.
If you can't attend the shower, the gift should be there even if you aren't.
2006-11-13 01:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Of course, she should get a gift for her daughter! Well, it's really odd circumstances for the mom to not be at the shower - I think it would be nice if the gift were there for her to open in front of everyone.
2006-11-13 23:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋