Why does it have to be this way?
There's a guy that I have liked for a few years now. Before that, we were friends for six years. He's been divorced since early Feb. He use to flirt with me and say things to me like "It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see how much I want to be with you." I told him I liked him. Now he won't go out on a date. He feels uncomfortable being in a room, alone with me. It's one thing to not be into someone. But to say some of things he has said and then totally back off...I just don't get it. I know he's not at all ready for a committment, but why won't he go out on an ocassional date with me? I have left him alone so he could sort out his thoughts. Then we start talking again. He opens up a little bit more then he shuts right down. I'm totally baffled. Any thoughts?
2006-11-13 01:07:24 · 6 answers · asked by Fuzzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fuzzy, I guess you are giving him a wrong signal about how desperately you want him each time you meet, especially after you decided to accept his flirting with you. He's afraid you may just want to hook him either by "hook or crook". Talking to you from a guy's perspective now. Maybe you need to caution yourself on what you say whenever you're chating with him. Don't sound too frustrated and desperate. That's my candid advice. Cheers!
2006-11-13 01:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he is a confused mad i think you should leave him alone BC he will continue doing that if you want to stay friend that's fine but it won't go no where if he tries to do anything else besides act like a friends just say politely look i think you are not ready for anything serious and i don't want to be the rebound girl i really care about you so can we just please stay good friends and that's all
that's all you should just say to him he definitely don't know what he wants and i don't want you to get hurt good luck
2006-11-13 09:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be that way. But he chose to make it that way, so it is.
And to answer your question, come on now. Be honest. When a girl asks a guy out on a date, it's not JUST to have a date. You're looking for something potentially more, and I guess he's sharp enough to know that, and has made his decision that he doesn't want to get involved. He's doing you a favor not succumbing to your whims.
2006-11-13 09:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's exactly as you think - he doesn't want to feel pressured right now. And somehow you are giving off the, "I want to make a nest with you and have babies" vibe.
Back off. If he's interested he knows where you are...
2006-11-13 09:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants what he knows he can't have, then when he can have it he doesn't what it. I think he wanted something on the side with you and not a full time relationship.
2006-11-13 09:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ma bey he thinks you are moving to fast, guys, although we don't admit it, are very emotional, so a break up is hard for us to accept. and moving on is just as hard if not harder
2006-11-13 09:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by docslim694u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋