He was my very first love and I'm very tempted to go back to him because I was so devastated.
He didn't give any reasons he just told me that it was a mistake to break up with me.
All my friends are telling me not to, but I am REALLY tempted to... let my heart get broken again....
2006-11-13 01:00:12 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We didn't have sex, although he wanted to. He was cheating on me for one day before I caught him and told him to stop. He listened to me, but a week later he broke up with me and went out with the other girl. Now, he's begging me to take him back. But I'm beginning to go in the other direction.... thanks
2006-11-13 01:09:58 · update #1
The only reason you want to go back to him is because there wasn't any closure on your end. He didn't explain to you why he broke it off. Where you're concerned, you've been waiting for the opportunity to pick up where you left off. You can treat it as a temporary miscommunication and move forward with him.
It's a really bad idea. At the very least, he owes you an explanation of why he broke up with you. It has to be a heartfelt, honest explanation, not some bull****. Why was it a mistake? When did he realize it? Why now? Has he apologized to you for breaking your heart and making you miserable?
If it were me, I'd pass on him. I just don't see any good coming of it. But, if you choose to go back to him, be honest enough with yourself to know that he could crush you again, and you would have no one to blame but yourself for allowing it to happen.
2006-11-13 01:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when you love someone no matter what people tell you, you are always going to do the opposite. So i will say 2 you 2 follow your heart. True he used you and I wouldnt take him back because chances are he is only goin 2 use again because he knows that you are going 2 let him, but if you love him and you choose 2 get back with him you have 2 let him know how he made you feel and you have 2 keep your guards up becasue he may try you again. But I say 2 you 2 follow your heart and if in your heart you feel you want to give him another chance you go for it.But be careful, men have a way of tricking woman and we seem 2 fall for it at times. You played the fool once dont play it twice.
If you get back with him you have 2 give it time b4 u really open your heart up and give him your all, because as soon as you let him in he is going to steal it from you. You have to put your foot down if this is something that you are sure you can handle.
2006-11-13 01:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are just very immature sometime when you first date them and maybe he's grown up a little but, noone can tell you what to do because regardless we usually follow our hearts in this case you have to follow yours and i hope if you choose him you let him know how you felt when he did you wrong the first time and tell him if he's not ready for a serious relationship without drama don't bother. Because you know you can do better than someone who wants to play games all over again life is too short for that. Tell him what you want and what you expect out of him this time if y'all get back together. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 01:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One thing that I have learned from past relationships is to always remember that there is a reason that you broke up in the first place. 99% of the time people don't change. You have to know your value. Is he worth having you back? If you are that tempted make him work to get you back. If it is easy then he will do the same things he did before and leave you again.
2006-11-13 01:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by From the "ATL"! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to make the choice that you're not going to let him hurt you anymore. Of course he wants you back. You are willing to put up with his crap and treat him like a king. He was your first love, but first loves don't always last forever. It hurts terribly when it's over, but you reflect back on your relationship and learn a lot about yourself, as far as what is accesptible and unacceptible. It's time to move on without him. You will be a much happier person for it. Believe me. If he can break your heart once, he will continue to do it, until you stop letting him. I know it's hard, but you need to let him go.
I know when my first love was over, I thought my life was going to end - literally. He would break up with me for "no reason." When that one didn't work out he would come back to me - sorry for hurting me blah - blah - blah, and I loved him so much I would take him back before he could even ask. Then I fianlly realized he loved himself more than he loved me. He just kept me around because I was sure thing for him. he knew he could do pretty much whatever he wanted and I would always be there to support him and take care of him. I fianlly came to my senses and said enough. It was the hardest thing I ever did, but my life is sooo much better without him. I found a man that loves me and only me. He treats me the way I'm supposed to be treated. With love and respect. You need to give yourself a chance to find real happiness too. But you never will until you let him go. He's a big boy. He can take care of himself.
2006-11-13 01:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to watch Oprah really bad!! Never take a man back because you were devastated. You deserve more and there is someone out there who will love you. You need to be #1 in a man's life and need trust in a relationship. Without trust, you have nothing. Once a man cheats, he will be tempted to cheat again. Dont get your heart broken twice by this person. Be strong, lift your head up, and say to yourself "You are worth better than having him in your life". And do it, you will be proud of youself when you do - don't pity yourself, I went through this myself and now I met someone who really loves me. Keep me posted.
2006-11-13 01:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This guy does not respect or care for you he is a player and because he never got a chance to sleep with you he comes running back run the other way and tell this loser that you are far better than him and that the qualities that you have he can't handle and then walk away. There are plenty of honest trusted guys out there who knows how to treat a lady and would never think of hurting us women like that. I hope you find that guy and dismiss the loser he ain't worth it.
2006-11-13 01:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by antionette_jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I have been in a similar situation. Honestly you can only do what you believe is best. If you truly love this guy and feel he has changed or learned his lesson and that you can trust him, then you have pretty much already decided.
The one thing I would suggest though is if you are unsure, make him prove to you that he is sorry, but don't tell him he needs to.
People who cheat or use someone and then want them back need to know that they need to do something extra special to prove their loyalty and should not have to be told.
2006-11-13 01:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First love is not The Love. Your first boyfriend is always special, you specially invested most of your emotional interest in it. However that does not mean that it is the one to last. Keep an open view as he might (though not usually) be sincere about it. Do learn from your previous relationship and build upon it. Do not, however, let fear or insecurity make you cloud your decision making.
2006-11-13 01:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by FJY 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone girl. He is going to do it again. A man will only do what you allow him to. By taking him back you will being only showing a sign of weakness on your part. Dont you think more of yourself than to let some man walk all over you like a doormat? And then throw you away when its convient for him.
2006-11-13 01:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Chayel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋