my husband will be going off for work for a long time. it could take months.. maybe a yr . We're not sure.I know he will come back to me as soon as he can , but before he leaves , i want to do some things for him so he will come back to me as soon as possible.He is not with me now.i cant call him but he can hear me , i have a mic and a cam.We are still keeping contact with each other but in 2 weeks time , chances of us talking to each other wont be much maybe not at all.We are having a very hard time facing this. & I want to thank you for all your effort and help.
2006-11-13 00:59:24 · 9 answers · asked by ver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell how much you love him until that time comes.
2006-11-13 01:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very hard situation you're dealing with first of all. Personally, I would make sure to write at least two letters a week if he's allowed to get mail wherever he's going. Twice a month I would put together a care package, things such as home made cookies or brownies, some paper, pens and envelopes so he can write back to you, also include stamps. If he's military, ask him for a list of things he needs such as new socks or underthings which he can't just go out to the store and buy for himself. If he is military, make sure you send an extra batch of cookies for his friends. Make sure he knows you're thinking of him and that you love him. Don't harass him however to write you back all the time, some men are terrible about writing letters. Just send him the items to write you back and let him make the choice, this will let him know you trust and love him. Take a nice picture of yourself that's wallet size and send it to him, maybe once a month or if you do something very different with your hair, that way he can see the physical changes you're going through also. Possibly send a disposable camera in his care package and tell him when it's filled up to just send it back to you, you'll have it developed and send him a set of the prints. Good luck, this is very hard on a marriage, be strong for yourself and for him.
2006-11-13 09:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I he loves you and is committed to you he will come back all on his own, there is nothing that you'll do to change that either way.
Having said that, the one thing that will kill your marriage is the lack of communication. Even if you both can't talk in real time you need to keep him connected with what is happening in his absence and how you feel about him.
Staying connected to the love each of you have for each other will bring him back.
The one thing that either of you should not do is hold each other to such high esteem that, if something happens in your life or his that questions the commitment that the two of you have for each other in his absence should not be discussed remotely. Trust each other that each of you will get through it and if there is anything that changes the relationship that the two of you have, then you both need to wait and talk about it face-t- face, no matter how bad either of you might think it is.
In other words, don't ask if he is cheating on you and don't tell him that you might have cheated on him, or done anything equally risky to your relationship until the two of you have time to work through it. But if you do ask, expect the truth.... no lies... that will be the killer of your marriage.
Always be honest, but don't ask questions that deal with relationship issues that take time and face to face contact to work through. Alway tell him how you feel about him though and trust that he will do the same. And when he gets back, he tells you that he wasn't the paragon of virtue, or you tell him, then try to work through it and your marriage will be fine.
2006-11-13 09:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give him your photographs, choose the most romantic ones. Those will make him always remember and miss you. if you've already have children, it's better to give him the most happiest photo with your children. Try to contact with him nicely and show your smart and beauty. Don't forget to always be honest to your husband.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 09:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are truly in love there would be no dout in your mind that he was coming home asap.
Take the time your apart to think about that.
2006-11-13 09:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then you don't have to do anything special.
That's the purpose of getting married when they come back from their jobs they come home because they love you and they want to be with you.
2006-11-13 09:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you, your marry has chances to survive, and you don't need to do something special for him, if he loves you he will try to communicate with you, frequently, and he will come as soon as he can.
2006-11-13 09:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you, and it sounds like he dose, he will be back just as soon as he can. Willingly and very eager to see you
2006-11-13 09:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by docslim694u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you send him packages and things while he's away
2006-11-13 09:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋