I dated a guy for four years. A normal relationship. Actually we were planning on getting married. I had noticed some change in behaviour in the last while and then one day he decides to break up with me. I was devastated. I tried going to his home but he locked himself in and won't open the door. I did not know what to do. Now 7 months later he decides to send me an email asking me how I am and that he misses me lots and that he can't be without me, what do I do?
2006-11-13 00:09:03 · 25 answers · asked by milly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have finally healed from him hurting you, why open yourself to that hurt again. Just tell him that you want to be friends. Sounds like he's afraid of comitment and he'll do it again.
2006-11-13 00:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you enjoyed the relationship and you are not seeing anyone right now, reply.
I'd say even if you are seeing someone right now, try getting an explanation of what really happened. That might remove some bitterness of this relationship and from it you might learn something more about relationships and can apply in your next one.
Communication and Candor are the key aspects for a relationship.....
2006-11-13 00:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by stock_diddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be interested to live the rest of your life without knowing why he did that???Even if you dont want him back,get to know the reason why he left you like that...Maybe like old films,the guy must have realized that he has a serious illness and doesnt want to spoil your life and he found no other way to make you leave.Now,the results of his test showed negative and he realizes that you are the one he should live with...!isnt that possible?And dear,what if this has happened after you got married with him?-i meant the separation!we have to live our life understanding what will happen.we can never expect it to be good always,...so,be positive always and i am sure you will have a beautiful life with him.Dont leave him if you love him
2006-11-13 00:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Vishnu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you want to do? Do you want to still want to be with him? Are you willing to risk that kind of hurt again? I can't tell you what you should do, only you know that. If you chose to respond and potentially get back together with him you are risking that hurt all over again. Is the risk wroth the potential gain? I hope that helps. Best wishes and take care.
2006-11-13 00:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are still interested in him and want to get back with him you should respond. If you are not interested in him but want an explanation you should ask him to explain himself. The worry is that you want to get back with him when he doesn't want the same. Think long and hard about if you want to be upset by him again before you get in too deep. Good luck.
2006-11-13 00:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was too immature to handle the situation. I would not get involved again as there are many other fish in the sea and your semi ex fish is a herring..Look for the tuna..
2006-11-13 00:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by worldsource19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if the girl he dropped you for dropped him. And yes I'm cynical but usually people don't just drop someone without a another person waiting in the wings.
2006-11-13 00:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Answer his email but take pleasure in telling him to f*ck right off! Unfortunately women are likely to go running back to this sort of **** which is why men are likely to show them no respect whatsoever. Tell him to f*ck off but no way go back to him. If you create your own disaster after this advice, I'll just take delight in saying 'I told you so!' in about 3 months time.
2006-11-13 00:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by Uncle Sid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that the eamil is 7 months too late. That is unless of course you want him back. I wouldn't give him the time of day. It sounds to me like he left you to go with another woman and then she left him so now he wants you back. I wouldn't go back.
2006-11-13 00:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you moved on & got yourself back together after the break up? If so treat him as a freind & continue with your present life.
2006-11-13 00:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋