I've been feeling just a little negative about my relationship probably because I'm falling in love with my boyfriend and I'm scared of being hurt...
This past weekend my boyfriend told me that he wants to spend this weekend alone with me, just the two of us, but we've been doing that most weekend, well kind of...
I would like to go out with my friends on friday and on saturday go to the movies with them, I'm thinking about telling my boyfriend that if he still wants to see me this weekend he can meet up with me at the movies and I'll go home with him, I'm so scared that he'll be dissapointed but then again I wouldn't want him getting bored of me spending too much time with him... Boys if you're reading this, is it a good idea to have my own space away from him even when he wants to see me, will it dissapoint him or will it make him look forward to the times I do spend with him?
2006-11-12 23:43:59 · 9 answers · asked by Sheepless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If hes already asked you to spend time with him alone this weekend just the two of you then you are turning down what hes asked you to do.Cant you give him this weekend and see where it goes from there. There may be a reason he wants you to himself.By saying no you are risking what you dont want to happen in the first place ;getting hurt.
There must be something there if you're falling in love with him.
2006-11-12 23:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what hurt will it cause if you could honour this request made by your boyfriend? I think you need to spend the weekend with him because he has specifically requested that he wishes to spend time with you alone. Why not grant him this request? How would you feel when you want to spend a time with him alone and he later brings his friends along too? You certainly feel disappointed. My advice is to at least honour his request this time around. There will always be other times that you can go to the movies with your other friends. Treat him(ur bf) specially because now, he is more than just a friend. I believe that it is not right to hurt a person and intentionally stay away from someone. Most times this result into seperation and breakdown in communication than what most people will perceive that the boy will love you more. I think it is wrong. Just sacrifice this weekend for me and I promise you that you will never forget the experience for the rest of your life. Cheers
2006-11-13 00:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by King of Torts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its absolutely a good idea to have a life of your own. A couple of issue here though... I understand about being scared to get hurt however, if you really do like him, the only way to experience the joy is to risk getting close. It's not a bad idea to take it slow. Make plans without him and have fun with your friends or on your own. Make sure he knows how you feel about him and if he has a good deal of self esteem and no insecurity issues then he'll give you the space you need to live a balanced life.
2006-11-12 23:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Peter F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can spend too much time with a girl, such that it becomes suffocating, but u can never miss a girl too much. The more u miss her, the more u like her. Let him wait... just make sure that he doesn't get the idea that u r cheating.
2006-11-12 23:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spending too much time with him will get boaring!! then he'll want to be with you all the time and you will have no time for your friends! so just let him know that you love him but you have to spend time with your friends too! besides you're already spending time with him and when you can you can be with him!
2006-11-12 23:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by chicaguanajuatence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absence makes the heart grow fonder. if he really cares about u being apart will drive him mad and when u see him next it will be like you just met. i think spending every weekend together is a bad thing and you should each have time for yourselves
2006-11-12 23:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and do what you feel is right. You sound young and have plenty of time to sort out a relationship. If it is meant to be it will be.
2006-11-12 23:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, time apart works wonders and makes things more special the time you get together,,,, but make sure you make time for him as well,,, quality time but there is nothing to be lost in having time to yourself,,,
2006-11-12 23:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey f he really love ya he will never be angry cuz u want to spend more time wiz ur friends.
2006-11-12 23:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋