my partner of 13yrs left me 4 a younger model and left our 3 kids to who he dont see his kids(her choise not mine ) and i have been with my new partner 4 2 yrs hes married but seprated but still lives there they have seprat lives i no this must be true as he stays at my house 3 or 4 times a week he lets me down all the time but i no he loves me he drinks alot and i dont see him alot any more as he is always working to pay 4 his house this i no is true because he works by were i live so i know hes in work he as cheated on his wife a few time and has always been truthfull with me and told me he was a jack the lad before he met me he dont know y he married her he says he dont love her but she wants him back but he wont leave his house what do i do ???
2006-11-12 23:41:27 · 15 answers · asked by kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, leave him. It sounds as though you are on a hiding-to-nothing. If this other woman wants a drunkard, who continually cheats on her and lets her down let her have him. Is that really what you want?
2006-11-12 23:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by jeanette m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a start your husband left you and you nust have felt or still do pretty crap. The fact that you have children together makes it more painful. What I can't understand is why you fall for your new b/f patter?
He drinks and to be honest drinkers dont know what emotion is they have only one love and thats the bottle, secondly if he wanted to be with you he would tell his wife and leave the marrital home to be with you. This is so complicated in that you have children by someone else and if he moved in tomorrow would your children welcome him?
I would seriously take a break from this guy and sort your head out. Ask him to do the same and if he really loves you like he says he does then he's gotta realise you both need timt to work things through.
2006-11-13 07:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how do you know all this is true. ask yourself a question honestly if one of your friends came to you with this story what would you say??
he says he loves you but is living with his wife he stays with you i mean how do you know what goes on in his house how do you know he doesnt tell his wife he is working away from home for a day or two.
he has cheated on his wife and she still wants him back to me that is rubbish. number one a leopard never changes his spots and number two you were in this same suitation a few years ago when your husband left you it doesnt feel very nice does it so why put that same pressure on another family. i dont mean to be disrespectful. but what is happening is like a viscious circle yur fella goes off with someone elso you meet someone else he leaves his wife what about the kids where do thay fit in
2006-11-13 09:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by aoife k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tricky situation 2 b in, but u need 2 really think if this is wot u want. i dosent sound as if ur 2 happy with a situation that isnt going to change?you should tell him you want more from a relationship and that you feel second best.if he dosent change then leave him spend some time on your own 2 get ur head straight and then look 4 another partner who will treat u with respect. hope this helps?
2006-11-13 07:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by holmescarlene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry-but it sounds like he's playing you. He's cheated on his wife-and she still took him back. She probably views you as his latest dalliance. At the end of the day,he's returning home to HER. He won't leave his house-he doesn't intend too. Walk away now and get someone who is 100% for you.
2006-11-13 07:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much more obvious do you need it - he's lying to his wife, but he must be telling you the truth? C.mon, dump the loser and find yourself someone worthy of your trust. He has used up all his chances - you are just the mistress and you need to face the awful truth - he will not be leaving his wife, otherwise he would have done so already.
2006-11-13 07:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, your entire post is one sentence, and horribly rambling.
But trying to sift thru it all, I think you need to get rid of all men in your life for now, be a parent, and just step out of the relationship pool altogether until you have your head on straighter. Raise the kids, and forget about the rest for now.
2006-11-13 07:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has cheated on the woman he had vowed to love and to cherish one too many times, what made you think he won't do it to you or much less lie? If the guy truly loves you he'll settle his marital problem first before involving you in this mess.
2006-11-13 08:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you would want to go out with someone who is with someone else. There are to many other single people in the world to have go with someone else's man. Good luck & take care
2006-11-13 08:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by truckinglove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult to read your post, but from what I can make out both men seem to be losers, youll have to find better guys than those.
2006-11-13 07:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by funnysam2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋