I have heard mothers or fathers saying "this is my favorite son or daughter", and to the extreme extent of giving more love, money and inheritance.
2006-11-12 21:50:12 · 12 answers · asked by HM 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a mother of three and I have to admit that I have favorites. I have a favorite to shop with, another favorite to snuggle with, another is better in the kitchen than the others so she is my favorite that time of day, I really enjoy watching sports with one (the others just aren't interested). I make it clear to my kids that they each play a special role in my life and there is a time and a place when they are each my favorite.
2006-11-13 01:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weather we like to admit it or not some parents do have a favorite child. Be it a son or daughter. I believe it comes from personality that get a long better.
Most good parents DO NOT say it or would ever admit it because they know how hurt the other child will be.
Its the same as a child favoring one parent over the other.
2006-11-13 06:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this to be a very bad thing for parents to do to their children. It would seem to indicate there is not enough room in a parent's heart for more than one child. I refuse to pick favorites between my children. I love and adore them both.
Now, am I saying I am not human? No, there are personality types that I may get along better or easier with, but to take that and use it as a basis to 'pick a favorite'? No Way.
I think a parent picking a favorite is focusing more on themselves and their emotional needs than their children's emotional needs. I think it's a self-centered act and when one is a parent, one should not be self-centered when it comes to the children's needs. (Then again, parents focusing more on their own needs and neglecting their children's needs has appeared to be a trend in the last few generations, and one I feel is not right, IMHO.)
2006-11-13 06:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they do on purpose, I think that there is one child that listens and do just what their parents like and the other child does also, but have some thing to say about it or talk back even , I know I wasn't the favorite , cause I did what my mother wanted but I had something to say about it were my sister did it with a smile and didn't have anything to say about it.
2006-11-13 11:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that parents who have a favorite child don't love all their children .It took me some time to understand where they are coming from.Parents may have a favorite child for any number of reason eg:they had a difficult pregnacy,so that they are more protective about that child,or they must have had emtional issues which would reflect in how they view their kids or it could be that their child's personality is same as their's,which would tend to create more friction..........
This is one of those questions which could have 1000s of different answers
2006-11-13 07:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by zune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that is so unfair. From my own experience, I always thought i will be fair and just to all my kids. Although now, i have only one and i intend to have two more, i know i will love my first child the most. He is so different from other kids. He needs alot of my love and attention. But in return, he shows me so much love. He is also very demanding of my time and difficult. And he was breastfed to a year +. The second and third, i will take it easy and not fuss so much. So my bonding with the first kid is the closes.
2006-11-13 06:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by fantacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's about favoritism. I'm a mother of two boys and I usually give more attention to one of my sons when I see that he needs more attention than the other.
2006-11-13 07:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by lanisoderberg69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a mystery to me my parent had 4 kids two sons two daughter , they only love one , my sister even though we live few miles apart , they dont no anyof there grandchildren or great grandchildren other than my sisters , always felt unloved , i send presents birthday cards etc , but have now given up visiting cas all they talked about was my sister, i love her still i try and block it , i got 4 kids and love them all equally
2006-11-13 09:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by chrissy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first born will be like that for them or the last if four are there.
here also again love comes into picture.
how the child looks his/her parents ,the parents also show more love towards them.
give and take relation.
2006-11-13 06:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most fathers love their daughter.....
most moms love their sons....
that is often a fact to different culture because it is the thing they call oedepus complex..... so..... thats what they were created.. i think we will just make the best of who and what we are.....
2006-11-13 05:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by bugi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋