RELATIONSHIP ADVICE?! is this it?

Question

OK SO IV BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND SINCE I WAS 19, IM NOW 22 AND weve lived together for almost 2, i feel like weve changed well i have anyway, im not as happy and content as i used to be, we bicker about silly things a lot, and little things about him are wrecking my head, i feel like i changed a lot when i 1st met him and havnt really been mydelf for the last few years, i miss who iwas, im very quiet and reserved now and not as confident in myself and my decisions, i feel like im living like a person whos 40, settled down etc, i dont feel iv had enough life experience, and keep asking mydelf the same question, is this it, is this life? i feel like im settling, too afraid to break up in case ill regret it. hes a great guy in every way, kind goodlooking etc, and then theres another problem, im not attracted sexually to him at all, help?

Answer 1

Girls never are attacted to good guys. They like the bad boys and then try and make them into good guys that they end up not wanting. How about you save yourself a little grief and just tell him to let the bad boy come out in the bedroom a little. That way you can have the best of both worlds.

Answer 2

I know is a cliche but if you love him set him free...
You need to concentrate on you. You've admitted you are not ready to settle and you are not sexually attracted to your boyfriend, so let him go and find someone who will be.

You'll meet someone else when you're more ready and in the mean time you can go live your life a bit, do things you've always wanted to do but felt you couldn't because you were tied. You're 22, best years of your life... go live 'em girl! Everyone deserves to do what makes them happy.

Just be real gentle when you let him down and be strong on those nights when all you want to do is call him up and get back together because ultimately this isn't what you want and not fair on him either.

Good luck Hun, just remember you're not being cruel, you're doing the right thing for the both of you.

Answer 3

Its obvious you are not happy where you are. So stop lying to yourself now and just go. When you do eventually let go of him you will feel less stressed out about the way you think your life will go and you will have more time to do things for your self, hang out with friends etc.

YOu cant see yourself with him when you are older, so why stay now, you are wasting your youth. ENJOY these yonger days we have, dont give your power to someone and let them make you feel this depressed. YOu can try and see if you can break it off gentlly. Tell him you need to experience the world as you aint had enough of it yet, and if its true love between you two then you can get back togethr when you are older. But to me, its clear you dont even fancy him any more, so when you meet someone new you will eventually forget about how "strong" you beleive you should be together. YOur wasting time, move on now, you will be happier in the long run.

I am in a long relationship now, over 4 years, i am only 18, i am seriously thinking of getting out, I have once before, and i was so happy, but he got me back now i regret it. I am gonna move on too, its the only way to be able to enjoy yourself, we are too young to settle down, before you know it, you will be trapped with 2.5 kids. Get out whilst you still can.

Goodluck xx sam xx

Answer 4

Hi. We all change, as we grow. Hopefully we grow together, but sometimes we dont.
I know how you feel as I was inthe same position about 2 years ago and we split up.... and I realised I had made a terrible mistake. We are now back together and marry in July.
PLEASE try and remeber that comfortable isnt bad. Just beacuse you dont want to jump his bones oevrtime you see him, doesnt mean that its not right. The foundations of a relationship and more important... does he challenge you (in the mind)? Are you comfortable with him? Do you still have a laugh together? Do you genuinely care for him? Do you miss him if he goes away? All these questions have to be asked.
Ultimately you have to be happy yes, but there is some terrible guys out there and so ones that will keep you happy for 10 mins.... he could keep you safe, love you, repect you for the rest of your life.
COMFORTABLE isnt bad, friendship, honesty, respect, reliability and loyalty are the basis of a relatioship that works.

Me and my partner row like CRAZY! he drives me mad sometimes. but he challenges my mind, he keeps me the person I am.. I rely on him and him on me. Thats so natural.

Talk to him.... communicatiion is the key.... he will appreciate the chat and respect your honesty. Dont throw it away when your not sure.

Hope that helps x x x
Email me if you want....

Answer 5

Sounds like you've outgrown this relationship. You're not happy with where you are but because you've not been in this situation before the thought of splitting up scares you. The thing I'd advise is to take the plunge and live your life until you feel ready to settle down yourself. If you settle when you're not ready it'll only cause numerous problems in the future. Be single, enjoy your life and find yourself again.

Answer 6

hey buddy, i think uve now grown matured yaar, cause when u went him u were in adolcent stage,now that u r matured and find changes in your behaviour u tend to feel all what ever u have mentioned.but anyway u also say that hes kind thats more important in life man,and u r also afraid to break up cause u r not sure about yourself, and getting attracted to our partner sexually isnt important my friend, so dnt worry try to change a bit of yourself, be what u r now, talk to him more and spend a lot of quality time try to praise him a lot, make him feel that hes the sexiest and the bestloved person, cause anyman whos finds him loved by this pal will try to love u a lot.u have enough time to be settled in life, dnt crib with these issues, actually all this happens in a good relationship, do not worry, when all this doesent happen then it has no life,my dear friend life is full of sugar and salt,u have just tasted sugear when u were 19 now that u r tasting is salt at 22 u feel that way.dnt worry, just go head with this relationship, and try to occupied in things u like, spend quality time with him, relax,gv sum timefor yourself and then think,i am for sure its going to work wonders yar,bye,try

Answer 7

You have major problems then. And unless you are prepared to put them right I dont think it will last. Have you sat down and spoke to him more in depth about this?

He needs to know if you aren't happy and I can't think for one minute that he like to see you unhappy. It's a two way street and You both have to sit down and talk about everything. How does he feel about you? Have you ever asked him? Firstly you need to ask yourself if you can see yourself with him in another 5 years.

Do you want this relationship in crisis to work? These are questions you need to ask yourself before going any further. If you dont want him anymore then honesty is te best policy. Leave him and go out there into the big wild world and find what's missing.

Answer 8

It sounds really hard, maybe organize a weekend away with some really close friends and try to listen to what you really want.
Just think if he was staying with you and deep down he was not attracted to you? I personally would leave there is too much you still will do and so many other people to meet.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Sounds like you need to find the bad boy in that good boy. We all know girls dump the good boys to go for the bad boys.