If you have not been together while they are in the relationship, but have developed genuine feelings and you feel they are a truly good person should you still not trust them or is this a part of life and love?
2006-11-12 21:22:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There has been no cheating!!
2006-11-12 21:28:55 · update #1
why shouldnt you trust them?. there must have been flaws in the previous relationship for them to even consider leaving the other person.
the fact that you may have helped with the decision is neither here nor there. if there was no previous cheating going on then take it as a new relationship and let it bloom as any other relationship would.
do you have trust issues anyway?
2006-11-12 21:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky question. But for the most part no. If this person is not on fixing what ever problems causes their affection to stray from their current relationship, then the grass will eventually look greener somewhere else when they are with you.
How committed is the current relationship? Are they married, living together or just exclusively dating? The best route would be for them to end it with the person they are with if that is what they truly want and take some time to heal before starting another relationship. The longer and more committed the relationship, the longer they should take. Once they have cleared their head and are ready to jump into something new, then you should be more confident about their loyalty and motives toward you.
2006-11-13 05:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by LilRedHrdGrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when im not yet married i've had a lot of suitors,some of them are commited and some of them are married.most of them promised me to leave their partner if i will be their girlfriend,but i did not like the idea,specially those who had a family,i think about their kids first and secondly their wives,i cannot ruin a good family,and i dont want the same thing to happen to me.always remember this,if they can do it the first time,there's always a second time.and always think of karma,it doesn't matter if he had kids or not,what's important to concider is that the man is no longer single,someone will get hurt,and for me i dont want to see anybody to get hurt,i know the feeling of being cheated.if they are truly good person,then he will be satisfied of what he have,and wont let his partner get hurt.live your life in a cleanest way,we live only once,so do what is right without hurting anybody.never trust a cheater,coz he will be cheating on you too.
2006-11-13 05:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by carmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of Life and Love. Contrary to popular belief, people have control over their feelings. People should not make rash decisions based soley on their feelings. Feelings come and go. However, if this other person is not happy in their other relationship, thats another story. But still, there should be some lapse of time before both you of "hook up" that is, if this person breaks it off.
2006-11-13 05:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by rocker dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think if the person you are dating is currently in another relationship...tell them to take a hike! I would never trust someone who has "done the dirty" on current partner. Why don`t they just end it first?
2006-11-13 05:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by sols 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is "NO". Because if he can leave his partner, he can also leave you one day. Such persons are untrustworthy. They are not reliable. It is also not the part of true and sincere love. You may call a pert of love, but this love is also not based on proper footings. This love is just like a hollow base and can be destroyed at any time. If he is leaving his partner and coming to you, it means he will also treat you alike and will leave you.
2006-11-13 05:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this depends on the person if you feel you can trust them and they feel they are going to have a better relationship with you then you should go for it.
2006-11-13 05:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by pwnz7321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your heart, do you trust this person? this person is cheating on his/her current relationship with you, only you can decide if you trust them, as we dont know the person.
all id say to you is, dont let your feelings go too much incase this person does cheat again. xXx
2006-11-13 05:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with the person then you must trust him/her. You would not ask this question if you were in love. He/she should not trust you!
2006-11-13 05:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jirina B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all's fair in love and war, right?
if she'll leave him for you, it means if someone better comes along, she might leave you for him. always be careful. this is why i try not to get too emotionally involved in any relationship. women are not to be trusted.
2006-11-13 05:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋