i split from my fiance of 6 yrs 8 months ago. we had our own place.he has since moved away. when i was with my ex i met this guy.he wasnt a friend of my ex but he knew my ex.
we swapped no's coz we are in the same career.he said he wished he could meet someone like me but knew i was engaged.he kept texting me to meet up but i didnt coz i was in a relationship.i did like him tho.
my ex at the time had a go at him about the texts.since ive split from my ex(not coz of this guy)i have met up with him a few times.he still texts me like before.we have only kissed eachother despite him wanting to take "things" further.
we live in different towns & only meet up if we are out in the same town on the same nite.he always compliments me & says that im a nice girl.he asked me if i was enjoying the single life.i said i was.
why hasnt he asked me out properly?does he like me?is he giving me space coz of my ex?was the Q about the single life his was of seeing if i was ready to move on?
2006-11-12 21:01:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive know this guy for over a year now and his behaviour hasnt changed in anyway towards me. he still texts me all the same.
does the fact that hes been "chasing" me this long mean anything?
2006-11-12 21:03:05 · update #1
i think u should stay with him because u must mean something to him other wise he would not keep texting u and that he could get his pleasures some were else if that was what he was after .....what u got to lose ????
2006-11-12 23:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought was that he showed low character by chasing you while knowing you were engaged. That's tacky. A guy who doesn't respect your relationship wouldn't respect the one he has with you later, right?
Hmmm, he prefers texting..that's long distance contact. You live in separate cities and only occasionally see each other. Again, at a distance, literally.
I think he chased you while you were committed because you were unattainable. I think he likes your company but has pigeon-holed you to "friend" that he sees when in town. He probably has several girls like that and has sex with some of them. Translation: "Enjoying the single life"
My gut instinct is that he isn't very serious and if you got in a relationship with him you would be wondering who he was texting behind your back. I say keep the light friendship if you enjoy it but broaden your possibilities with other guys. I think there's a reason you've held back from going further than kissing and you know it. Other people advise you to ask him out but I think you would be the one creating and maintaining the relationship for as long as it lasts. It would tap into any insecurities you may have. There are more fish in the sea.
2006-11-13 05:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Californiamama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the fact that you were asked by him if you were enjoying the single life and you replied YES. Sorry to be harsh but I think that you should seize the day and tell him how you feel. He's been texting you a lot and sees you on nights out and has allready said he wishes he can meet a girl like you. Ask him out he has dropped you plenty hints and is more than likely just shy. x
2006-11-13 05:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you trust this guy if he was trying to coax you away from your boyfriend when you were attached? he sounds like a slimy tosser what a crap excuse that you were both in the same career to get your number. you have been pretty naive he has been slimy and manipulative he probably isn't as interested as he was before because now you are single and more obtainable he'll keep you on the back burner whilst he works on some other girls that have probably got boyfriends.
2006-11-13 05:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably. But being in different towns may make it hard to see each other. If its not far, make the move. Call him and go out. You both are freebirds.
2006-11-13 05:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not sure what you want
Invite him for coffee in a mutual place not home and generally chat about you looking to move on with your life and see his reaction
Good Luck
Jeff
2006-11-13 05:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys just like the chase, they LOVE chasing girls. who knows, maybe he doesn't even want a relationship, he just wants to chase you and then have some fun and then move on. you never know. it could be he just really doesn't want to move too fast 'cause he really likes you and doesn't want to screw it up (i know that's what i do sometimes, move slowly so as not to scare someone away).
2006-11-13 05:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must enjoy your company.. i wouldn't read too much into it . things will take their course if you let them. you must be by now at the age that you don't need to be ask'd out by him, and that you's both can just enjoy each others company and see what happens.... relax and if you like him enjoy it and have some fun.. what you got to lose? good luck and be happy you deserve it
2006-11-13 05:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously likes you but is giving you space coz of your ex just ask im out
2006-11-13 05:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Emma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he knows what he wants, but i think you dont have a clue? give it try, you never what could happen :)
2006-11-13 05:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by button moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋