i want to write our own wedding vows and i've made several so i could choose, reword and reconstruct them but my fiance is not upto it. he says the traditional til death do us part is okei and he don't know what to say in the vow.
what should i do?
2006-11-12 19:40:43 · 18 answers · asked by enigma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Make sure you leave yourself plenty of loopholes in the vows, just in case things don't work out.
2006-11-12 23:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling him how much it will mean to you if he does write his own vows and that it will make the day that much more special if he can express how he feels to you.And say if he needs help, offer him ideas about what he can write. Maybe it could be the first time he realised he loved you or how he was feeling when he asked you to marry him. If all of your powers of persuasion dont work just say to him that you will do your own vow and that if he just wants the i do then just have that after what you say to him
2006-11-12 19:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly_princess_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what type of person he is, he may be uncomfortable sharing personal emotions in front of a crowd, like at the wedding. Pick and choose your battles .. tell him you're fine with him reciting the traditional vows, and that you'd like to recite your own written vows instead.
2006-11-12 19:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jaded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is comforable with somewhat the "traditional" vows, with the "Till Death Do Us Part", then that, in my opinion, is a great thing.
Rewrite the vows to include this. It is "Old Fashioned", and it's admireable.
The best of luck in your new life together.
2006-11-12 19:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by karmor_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with tradition.its not so much the words in the vow as whether you intend keeping them or not.a vow is an oath for life not to be broken under any circumstances.
PS.love is more important than the vows.
2006-11-12 19:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explain ur side...the reason y u want to make ur own wedding vow...maybe he's just not into it...try to understand his side as well. one of you has to give way for the other...it may not be a big deal for him while it means a lot to you...but i know that u love each other so dont let the wedding vow spoil ur wedding...try to tell him that anythiong he will say will be great as long as it comes from his heart...it doesnt matter if its simple or not, as long as its true,,,that will be the sweetest vow for your wedding...trutrhfulness...
2006-11-12 19:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by roj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want something which is not traditional, then don't read one. Have a sit with your soon to be husband, and discuss about it. What he is for you, and what you are for him. It's your marriage vow, your promise and expression of love.
2006-11-13 00:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do the vows as you want, and let him say the traditional ones as he wants to - remember, it's his wedding, too.
2006-11-12 20:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Construct them how you want and them ask him if there's anything he likes or dislikes. Then go from there. This is out we did it, and our vows were beautiful and they were something we both had a say in!
2006-11-12 19:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give this to the person marrying you. Your new hubby might like it. Its from the tv show Northern Exposure.
"Marriage is the union of disparate elements: male and female, yin and yang, proton and electron. What are we talking about here? Nothing less than the very tension that binds the universe. You see, when we look at marriage, people, we're looking at creation itself.
"I am the sky," says the Hindu bridegroom to the bride. "You are the earth. We are sky and earth united. ... You are my husband. You are my wife. My feet shall run because of you. My feet shall dance because of you. My heart shall beat because of you. My eyes see because of you. My mind thinks because of you. And I shall love because of you." Now are you guys cool with that? Then kiss. "
2006-11-12 19:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋