My son has a girlfriend at 11. Is that too young or is it normal?

Answer 1

To tell you the truth,it is normal for anyone to have a girlfriend at any age.But this may just be a fling,more of an infatuation.But do not worry too much because your son is exploring his own life and it seems that he has stumble upon the category 'Love'. It is natural even for someone as young as your son.This answer goes to my own life,you see I too fell for a girl at the age of 9 much younger than your son but was never brave enough to approach.We were friends all the way and guess what,now it has been 9 years of just being friends and 3 years as a couple and we're happy...So I think that you should just let your son be and let him experience it on his own.I'm sure he knows his boundaries and if he does not than thats where you come in as a parent and give advice.He may experience heartbreak or love or any other emotions but as a parent, you should understand your child's feelings and just comfort him and give advices.My way is that it is best not to lecture or teach your child a lesson...Let nature takes its place and of course there are limits to everything but give him or her time to grow maturely and wiser.And this way your son would be able to understand more about the opposite gender and will wisen up in a sense.So basically is you should allow him to have a girlfriend and give him support in every way.

Answer 2

I think that is too young tell your son to wait till he is 13 or 14 to have a girlfriend and be careful you dont want your son to start kissing or having sex at a 11 i have gone throw this tell him no you are the parent yes he will say i hate you but he will get over it sooner or later and a boy that young his friends will tell him to have sex and he will impress them and do it teach him why he is 11 befor it is to late.

Answer 3

That's normal. I hate to talk about your son like this, but I'm sure your actual concern is for them having sex.

At that age, they're aware of what sex is, but won't be brave enough to go that far. Assuming the girlfriend is also around the same age, the two of them will watch movies together, and just talk about things they're both interested in.

If they do anything intimate, it will be holding hands, having an arm around the other, and maybe a kiss.

I would show yourself to be supportive, and in doing so, he will have her over more at your house where you can have more supervision. If you do notice that things are going too fast, you can have a talk with him alone. Again, this is more of a time for emotional exploring, than physical exploring.

Don't worry, enjoy this phase in both your lives, and good luck. :)

Answer 4

Take the answer from an 11 year old..... me..... ok umm i know a girl who is 5 with a bf and they kissed on the bus as long as they're not doing anything bad it should be fine and a boy asked me out when i was 7 but i said no because i liked some one else and a boy asked me out when i was 5 i said yes and he was 7 lol it should be fine then again it matters who he is but for most 11 yr olds it would be ok so dont worry just make sure they dont do anything bad and everything will be fine ^_^ okey dokie!!!

Answer 5

My friends daughter is 11 and she has a "boyfriend". She believes it is due to the pressure of her other friends all having boyfriends too. Fortunately, the relationship consists of nothing more than having a dance at the school disco, birthday/ Chrsitmas cards & presents and nothing physical (Phew!).
It does seem young, but I think that the term "girlfriend/boyfriend" doesn't have the same meaning that it does for us.
Hope this helps!

Answer 6

My son is 11. He has friends at school who have girlfriends. Its rather innocent. They just talk at school, possibly hold hands etc. They probably talk on the phone a little too. I wouldn't worry about it. An 11 year old is a pre-teen. I doubt seriously either one is very serious about the relationship!

Answer 7

Boys as young as 8 have had girlfriends. At that age, most they fear is the dreaded "cooties". It is very cute, and quite normal. However, if you haven't done so yet, the "talk" might be necessary before much longer. Just let him be himself, and be ready when he asks those questions. Chaperoning their "dates", of course, goes without much more saying.

Answer 8

Id say ,,give him some guidelines. No hanging out alone~go out as a group to an activity,,to respect the girl~a hug or kiss now & then but save grown up stuff until he is grown up & responcible.

Answer 9

no hes only 11 he doesnt know what to do to her,,,,,,,its probably somebody he thinks is cute to me i think alls he will do with her is hold her hand just monitor it and dont be worried be happy your son is starting to mature a little more

Answer 10

are you kidding me it is too young. they could truly have an innocent relationship but you dont want to risk it. Now adays girls are getting pregnant at the age of 12, that is just one year away, believe me you dont want that to happen.