GOing through the terrible 2's with my daughter at the moment and feel like I am always saying 'No - don't - stop it'!! Am firm and try to be consistent but also end up with that nothing compares to it sense of parent guilt..
Anyone else feel this? Know she needs to be disciplined and so know it is a necessary exercise.. just that niggle that accompanies it along the 'was I too picky/harsh' lines that bothers me!
2006-11-12 19:16:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes always do!! i have two children (5 & 4) and i feel like im always telling them not to fight and wind each other up. but at the end of the day they have to know between right and wrong
2006-11-12 19:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you always feel like you are saying no has two sides the first is that she may not be stimulated enough that she gets into "trouble" and secondly, all kids try things in order to learn from it. Let her learn.
We all feel awful when we discipline our kids at one time or another but just make sure that the positive messages she receives are many more, for instance, make sure when she is doing something, no matter how simple you tell her how clever, good etc she is.
There are two ways to praise and both are important but the latter more so. The first is "for doing" as described above and the other is "for being"..this means saying you love her just becasue she is she and not because she is good and clever...does that make sense?
Discipline is very individual and we all do it differently. We can be picky at times and to slack at others, we can only do our best!
2006-11-12 21:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by twinkletoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a guilt feeling when it comes to your own children discipline, yet it is important to do so. what I do is that I become a bit flexible with minor issues that won't cause any harm. If it is bath time for example and my child wants to watch something on TV for example at that time, I do let him for few minutes and then we go for the bath. But if it is lunch or dinner time, then no cookies allowed (another example). You just try to give him few things that won't cause any harm in order to get the important things done.
2006-11-12 19:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by sammourk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a one of us who didn't do just a little something we regret. But, that was then, this is now. If we're decent to people now & not hurting anyone, why worry about the past. It's the present that's what's important now. Leave the past in the past, & just keep going forward. I'm sure it's been forgotten by everyone else, why beat ourselves up over something that was done & cannot be changed. It's what's being done now that counts.
2016-03-28 03:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel EXACTLY the same, I always feel terrible. I have a 16 month old little girl and I feel like I'm permanently telling her not to do things. The only thing I do, is when she goes near plug sockets (which she annoyingly loves to do) and tries to put her fingers in, I give her a tap on the hand, just so she knows, and then she cries, and puts her hand to my mouth to kiss it, I feel awful but I know it doesn't hurt her, and I'd rather do that than get her electrocuted, but even so, i still feel bad!!
2006-11-12 23:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by Resolution 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me the solution was to pick 5 things that I felt were really important and discipline on those. You can not discipline on everything as you will spend all your time listening to yourself saying no, stop it, i told you lots of times etc. Just be selective as most things are not really that important if you stop and think about it. Good luck
2006-11-12 19:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do feel like that sometimes, but you do have to teach your child boudaries, for there own safety. So if you weren't stern with them they wouldn't know right from wrong without all the "NO, STOPS and DONTS of a loving parent. Your just being a good parent.
2006-11-12 19:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you let them get away with things they'll push you a little bit more until they're out of control (like most of the kids on our estate). They should have an enormous feeling of "well, i wont be doing that again"
2006-11-12 19:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by DAVID H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. It is natural to want your children to always be happy and to always think mom/dad is the greatest person in the world!
However, if you don't discipline now, it will be harder later and you could lose control totally.
Do pick your battles though.
2006-11-12 23:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sherral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All parents, at one time or another, feel the pangs of guilt after chastizing/punishing/spanking their children. What I always did was to make sure the child was set off doing their penence and wandered away so they wouldn't see me upset.
2006-11-12 19:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bradly S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋