Ok well,
I have been trying to move on with my new boyfriend Bryan ..We are really happy together and its bring back memories of me and my old bf ..I think I really love bryan but should I tell him that I am still thinking about the other guy..I just dont know how to move on and I really love bryan and dont want to hurt him but dont you think I need time to think...and if you have any idea how I can forget about my old boyfriend of 2 years .Then will you please let me know..
thank you so much..
Mack
2006-11-12 19:08:07 · 8 answers · asked by Brittany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
can anyone please give me an idea of what to do...please thank you...
2006-11-12 19:10:54 · update #1
I am confused because half of you are saying to tell him and the other half telling me not to tell him... :?
2006-11-12 19:24:19 · update #2
definitely do not tell him that you are thinking about this other guy. you say you love bryan. don't you think that it would hurt him to know this. put yourself in his place, would you want to know.
it's normal to sometimes think of someone who was part of your life for two yrs.
why aren't you still with him? think about those reasons, and it will probably help you to stop thinking about him.
2006-11-12 19:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old memories are natural--especially after two years. Telling Bryan would hurt his feelings. Making new memories with Bryan will help you to move on. Also realize it is ok to have memories of a 2 year long relationship.
2006-11-13 03:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you were truly in love with the new BF then the old one wouldnt even be an issue. It sounds to me like you may have some unresolved issues with the old BF, and until you get those issues resolved you will never be able to move on. But, don't lead the new guy on thinking that he is the only one you are thinking of. You should be truthful with him in regards to how you are feeling right now. You may have answered your own question when you said you may need a break. don't be afraid to take some time for yourself, to gather your thoughts and feelings, and to really examine how you feel about yourself and the two relationships. Remember, every relationship is different, and if you are trying to recreate your old one with the new BF all you will create is strife.
2006-11-13 03:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by weeewah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u want to move on with ur new bf,dont thinl of ur old bf anymore. bryan will be very hurt if u tell him u are still thinking of ur old bf. let ur old bf go. it is the best solution for the three of u.i am married and have a 7mth son. if u want ur relationship with bryan to go on smoothly,try to give in ,trust and understand each other. give up ur old bf.
2006-11-13 03:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by chew_thang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, but the best advice is , dont tell you r bf about your old feelings, in most of all cases it leads to jelousy and missunderstandings, he might starts thinking you are still in touch with him, and that will destroy faith, make it up with a close friend of yours , seek their advice, and go into yourself and think, and maybe think about getting him back, or meet hhe bestim and test your feelings, or you might be not ready for a new relationship even if you think you love him, but dont tell him, please.
make up your mind or maybe slow down and dont see him that often to have some time to make up your mind and feel what your hearts tells you, just dont tell him in most of all cases it leads to separation
i wish all the best
2006-11-13 05:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking of your old boyfriend because you are attatched to how your ex made you FEEL BACK THEN. THIS IS NOW! You are not technically thinking about your ex, you are thinking about how HAPPY you were then. You are not in love with your ex, you are in love WITH BEING HAPPY.
Create the happy feelings you felt back then and transfer them to your current situation with this guy you're moving in with now.
Perhaps you just are thinking of you're ex because people will always want what they haven't got.
2006-11-13 03:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Flashy Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may never forget your old boyfriend if you loved him but yes you should always be honest you shouldn't hide your feelings maybe you are on the rebound maybe you do need time to think if you read your own question you knowing i think you already know what you need to do if you are looking for conformation you have to make your own choice's in life or you will regret them later
2006-11-13 03:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that he will get hurt if you tell him taht he reminds you of your ex bf, then dont. its the most stupid thing you'll ever do.
2006-11-13 03:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by kezongputi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋