I love her but I find myself fantasizing about other women......sexy women!
2006-11-12 18:54:39 · 21 answers · asked by bcshane77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why on earth would you consider telling her?
2006-11-12 18:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hi, take it from a woman, you need to be honest with her. If your not she'll find out anyway , and it will be worse than if you would have told her in the first place. You say you love her then be a man and tell the truth. You can love someone and not be attracted to them. You don't have to stay with someone that doesn't turn you on, no one should. Be a man tell the truth. Prolonging it will most definetly make it worse. And if giving up on the relationship is not what you want to do then, maybe if you tell her she can try and solve the problem by making some changes to her self. I don't know what your problem is with her did she lose her appeal or is it just you? Good Luck:) Be honest.
2006-11-13 03:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tuff1, there are many types of loving of course but Its may be hard for her to accept "lets be good friend" because it sounds like she sees your connection as more serious while you may not. It is a fine art to letting a girl down easy over something like this if you have already had sex with her. But if youre just dating ,you could say something like "I like you alot, and I think its ok that we dont seem to have a sexual spark yet" On the other hand if you 2 are really close and very sexual but dont find her sexy, it seems youre intestion may be to have her as a partner until you find someone "better" .This is ultimatly worse than just telling her "lets be friends". You cant expect her to understand your urges , you cant really control her response . You can only tell her how what you feel.
2006-11-13 03:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by shyNquiet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kind of know what you mean. I like this guy. he's amazing, but before I actually KNEW him, he was NOT AT ALL physically attractive. He was funny, and sweet, and eventually I got to know him better. I really like his personality, and the more time I spend with him the sexier he is to me. He doesn't have a six pack, he doesn't have a Brad Pitt smile, but for some reason I find him extremely sexy. I think you may care for this woman, but I doubt you love her in the way that would be appropriate to have a sensual/sexual relationship with her. Maybe she is more of a sister type of girl to you. I think you should move on. She can still be a part of your life, but I don't think you should pursue something with her in that way.
You could say to her "_____(her name here) you are one of my favorite people. I love you, you mean the world to me, but I don't feel that magic when I'm with you. I don't want you out of my life, I just don't think it would be healthy for either of us to pursue this any further"
2006-11-13 22:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it interesting that you feel that you love her in spite of her not being sexy?
Fantasize away. But, recognize that love isn't based on sexy. Sexy doesn't last. Friendship and love do.
2006-11-13 03:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her keep your mouth shut and learn to accept her body as it is. A sexy body doesn't mean a thing without love, but love means everything without a sexy body.
2006-11-13 02:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then you dont love her. if you love her, looks wouldnt be as important to leave her based on that. stop wasting your time with her and stop leading her on. youre wasting her time as well. she could have found someone for herself if you told her from the begining that you were not interested in her and you could ave been well off.
just tell her straight out but be sincere. respect the fact that you guys did build a relationship together. she'll respect you for telling the truth rather than turning to cheating.
goodluck.
2006-11-13 03:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, ever heard of someone saying it's better not to say anything that would eat you back from behind?
i think those saying does apply here....big time!
better not say that she's not sexy and all...
but what i dont get is, if you really love her, how could you find someoneelse is sexy, and not her?
that's kind of weird, you know...
cuz, if you really love someone, you'll find her attractive no matter what..say that she's old, fat, anything, if you really love her, you'll never see all of those shortcomings of her at all...
now i'm starting to wonder do you really love her..hmm..
2006-11-13 02:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might "love" her, but if you aren't IN love, and don't see her as sexy, aren't you just wasting your time and hers? Cut her loose and let her find a guy who does find her sexy.
2006-11-13 03:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by busybody12 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't love her!
and really i thought i could answer your question in a civil manner but when i realize how selfish you are and the pain about to be unleashed on an innocent soul...you make me sick. I've heard women say the more i know him the more i love my dog. now i understand what they were talking about.
2006-11-13 03:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well since i wont be a kissass and give the woman approved response I'll probably get reported..
But if the spark isn't there anymore.. Why are you still with her?
2006-11-13 02:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋